I’m 40 years old and expecting my first child this fall. I wanted to read more about Marcia Cross’ twins since I am a “plus aged” mom to be myself. I have no clue whatsoever as to whether Ms. Cross or Ms. Davies or anybody else has recieved donor eggs. All I know is I didn’t. And it definitely is possible for a woman to bear children even into her 50’s. It’s not like you just stop producing eggs, menopause is a long, slow intricate process. It gets harder and harder to get pregnant as you move through your 30’s and into your 40’s though, partly because the quality of the eggs decreases and partly because the lutheal phase gets shorter or disappears. But it’s definitely not impossible, and in this day and age there are many helpful tools to help mature women make babies. IVF and fertility drugs can be a solution. I tried a combo of acupuncture and herbs and got lucky.

I just read these notes and have a few comments:

1. Marcia Cross did talk about the use of donor eggs and IVF as the way most older moms need to conceive. One can assume she is referring to herself. She’s one of the first over 40 celebrities who’ve talked about donor eggs and IVF candidly. Most of them don’t own up to it, e.g. Geena Davis. Technically it’s no one’s business. Can you just see the tabloids trying to track down and expose the donor? Or calling the baby so and so’s “donor egg” baby just as they say so and so’s “adopted child, as if it needs to be qualified how these kids came into their parent’s lives. Who cares?
2. What is with the criticism that she will not be a “hands-on” mom b/c she will have child care? Why does having child care make someone less “hands-on?” Give me a break. Great to have the money to get help with the difficult task of being a new and inexperienced mother, especially with multiple babies! Everybody should be so lucky. Like women aren’t suppose to get help..puhleeze….In the old days, extended family helped out (grandmothers, etc.) and nobody batted an eye. Many people who can have hired assistance.

As the mother of 9 mo. old identical twin boys I know life with twins is pretty insane (especially for a working mom like myself). I kind of feel sorry for her. At age 30 I struggle with always having the energy to keep up with my boys. I can’t imagine doing it at 44!!!

As for the comments about IVF, why is this such a big deal? A lot of people asked me if I did IVF when I was pregnant like that’s the only way you can have twins. I conceived mine 100% naturally with the only help coming from my husband. Some of us are just blessed with the miracle of two babies instead of one! I have a friend who conceived fraternal twins at age 40 without the help of IVF. Who cares how she ended up with twins, just pray they are happy and healthy!!

Marcia looks adorable and I’m happpy she is having twins. She has said how she never thought at her age she would be a mom, since she is always an aunt to other people’s kids. As for having a nanny, most celebrities do so to me it’s not a big deal if Marcia does. Especially when she goes back to work, and will need some help. I used to love her on melrose place and she is great on DH. For some reason I picture her with a boy/girl, but who knows.

In response to TwinMommy2006, I too saw the Ellen show featuring Marcia, and I think she was kidding about the nanny thing. Ellen said she got her a present for the new babies, and Marcia joked “Hopefully nannies?” She was just talking about how nervous she is to be taking care of two babies at once. She was only kidding. I think Marcia will be great hands-on Mom. I think it’s easy to assume she used some sort of fertility technology, and someone who was waited so long and worked so hard at it (fertility issues are difficult) really wants and deserves to be a Mom. Hope the babies are happy and healthy!
P.S. Marcia looked great on Ellen…..

I don’t think there is anything wrong with Marcia for thinking about hiring nannies. I have twins plus an older toddler to take care of and I wish I had someone to give me an extra hand to help me sometimes. I don’t think you don’t have to do everything by yourself to be a good mom. A little help could actually make you a more relaxed and happier mom.

I thought she said at one point she would consider using donor eggs, IVF, etc. She became pregnant very soon after she got married, so I was thinking she just got lucky and didn’t have to go that route. Either way, she is in a difficult situation because she is famous. She may not want her children reading about how they were conceived before she feels like she’s ready to tell them.

Its not really beyond the realms of possibility that she got pregnant naturally. My friend was at anti-natal classes with a 46 year old that was having her first and went on to have her second at 48 unaided. Rare I know but it does happen.

Traci:

it won’t be written in she has stated that I believe on Regis and Kelly. On another side note I am so upset over the whole baby thing btw Gabby and Carlos (even though I called it from day 1):)

I think Marcia has a right to keep her private life private. Best of luck to her and if she needs a nanny GO FOR IT – I have twin nephews (one disabled) and they are super hard to handle at times!!

It really isn’t anyone’s business is it? I mean, that is a very private situation and she certainly does not owe it to us, her “fans” to tell if she used donor eggs or not. I wish her and her husband the best of luck with the pregnancy and delivery of their twins.

Sidenote – I am SO hoping they don’t write her pregnancy into Desperate Housewives.