Helen Mirren “so happy” she never had children
by CBB correspondent Joyce:
In a 60 Minutes sit-down interview earlier this month with Morley Safer, Oscar nominee Dame Helen Mirren, 61, says she doesn’t regret not having children because she didn’t want to be tied down to motherhood. The Best Actress frontrunner for The Queen answers quite emphatically when prompted with the question.
"No. Absolutely not. Absolutely not. I am so happy that I didn’t have children. Well, you know because I’ve had freedom. And I’ve so loved my freedom."
While she’s never had the desire to be a mother, Helen goes on to say that she loves children, especially those in her family, who are "the most important people in my life, without a doubt."
A video of the interview can be seen here.
Helen is married to American film director Taylor Hackford, 62. They celebrated their nine-year anniversary on New Year’s Eve, which is also Hackford’s .
Source: 60 Minutes
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January 25th, 2007 at 8:38 am
To each their own. If that’s her feeling it’s a good thing she didn’t! Yes children are a huge responsibility but those who don’t have them don’t understand what it is like to have your OWN. Totally different than other people’s children or nieces and nephews. Extremely selfish people should think twice before having children.
January 25th, 2007 at 8:58 am
I am so happy and proud of my own 3 children. I know we made the right choice for us. Too many people have children because they are told by society or family that they should. I am glad she knows she made the right choice for her. Not everyone is cut out to be a mother and after all isn’t that what feminism is all about-making the right choice for yourself.
January 25th, 2007 at 10:25 am
She is a wonderful role model for other women who choose not to have children. Although I have a child, I certainly understand how she must feel.
And Kori, I have met enough extremely selfish people *with* children to agree with you.
January 25th, 2007 at 10:45 am
I know people that are selfish with children and may have been better off not having them. My sister in law left my niece with me when she was 2 (now 10) because she did not want to give up her single ways. Helen Mirren made a very wise and responsible decision that fits her life. In a way she was being a selfless. If she had children even though her heart wasn’t into it could have been bad for the children.
January 25th, 2007 at 11:02 am
I applaud her for being open and honest about that. Too many people, celebrity or not, are made to feel they should be apologetic for not wanting kids.
January 25th, 2007 at 11:41 am
Kudos to her !
I have a lot of respect for people who can be forthcoming about not having children without feeling guilty or pressured by society’s expectations.
January 25th, 2007 at 12:17 pm
I applaud her as well. Having children is just one choice in life; last I checked it is not mandatory.
I respect people who choose to have children, just as much as I respect people who choose not to procreate. No one should be made to feel bad for whatever their choice is. The important thing is to make the right choice for you….to have or to have not. I prefer to keep the selfish (and selfless) thinking out of it.
January 25th, 2007 at 12:26 pm
Having children IS selfish. Very much so.
NOT having children is the selfless act.
People have kids for themselves, thats selfish.
NOT having kids is selfless BECAUSE you realize you cant give your all, or you like your freedom, or whatever.
January 25th, 2007 at 12:41 pm
I gotta say, I agree with everyone. I have friends who have decided having children wasn’t for them and I think that’s great. Loralee I agree with you with pressures/society, just because you’re a woman that you automatically will be a mom or become a mom. I got so much pressure from family members because I didn’t have my children in my 20’s. My husband I had children when we felt the time was right it wasn’t until I was in my 30’s. So yeah to each their own.
January 25th, 2007 at 2:00 pm
While I appreciate her honesty I can’t help but feel that she has missed out on the most amazing experience a woman can have, being a mom.
There is no love like the love you feel for your child and although I admit I could have been a happy person and have a wonderful, rich life without my children I would not have known the true depths of love I could feel.
It’s kind of like watching a movie without sound and not knowing that sound exists. You can still enjoy the movie and the story and leave happy but WOW when viewed with sound it adds a whole knew dimension.
January 25th, 2007 at 2:20 pm
The great thing about this debate is that we all have a CHOICE. We can each do what we want and what’s best for us. No one should preach about what someone is missing out on because everyone’s life is different. We all do what’s best for us!
January 25th, 2007 at 2:43 pm
I know so many “selfish” people who also have children and I shake my head that sometimes they were even blessed with them. I say this bc I know so many people who would like to have kids and can’t yet we have women everyday who have them but don’t truly care.
By not having a child does in no way mean that she’s being selfish. I respect people more who don’t bring children into the world if it’s not what they really want. She felt she didn’t want it or need it so that’s great.
I would love kids too but I am going to have them when I am ready to no longer put myself first. And if I find that I can’t ever put a child before me then I guess I too will never be ready to have one of my own.
January 25th, 2007 at 2:47 pm
I just agree with you Kimber!
And why having children would be the most amazing experience? It depends of the person and fortunately we NOW have the choice. And like several posters said : ‘to each their own’.
January 25th, 2007 at 2:53 pm
I want to add I find Helen Mirren very courageous for speaking up about that.
January 25th, 2007 at 4:05 pm
I think that she is going to one VERY VERY lonelly old lady………..
January 25th, 2007 at 4:08 pm
To tell you the truth, I feel sorry for her. She’s missed out on a lot, yet she has no idea how much. There is nothing as amazing as having your own child. Nothing can top that. And I think it IS selfish to not have children. Everyone I know who doesn’t want kids always cites needing to retain “their freedom”. Sounds selfish to me.
January 25th, 2007 at 4:37 pm
Good for her! Atleast she realized it before she had kids. I have known too many women who have kids and really hated it. It’s hard for women in society to not have kids and be accepted. It’s a tough, tough job that just isn’t cut out for everyone. I can really admire her honesty and the realizeation early on that she didn’t want kids.
January 25th, 2007 at 4:57 pm
I’m happy that she made the choice that was right for her and I don’t think badly at all of people who choose not to have children. But I do not agree with preesi’s comment…yes, there are a lot of selfish people that have children for selfish reasons. However, I don’t think having a child is inherently selfish nor do I think not having a child is incredibly selfless. It all depends on the person and their particular circumstances.
January 25th, 2007 at 5:17 pm
It’s funny my Grandmother and I have had this argument so many times. She’s the mother of 12 and thinks of people who don’t want children are pretty much evil. I want kids (actually thought I’d have them by now) but I always end up defending friends and acquaintances who are childless by choice due to my Gran’s furious, narrow minded conviction that they are selfish. I happen to agree with Helen Mirren if someone doesn’t want children then they shouldn’t have them, period.; not everyone is wired to be a parent. I feel it’s possible to live a full happy life with or without children.
January 25th, 2007 at 5:50 pm
“I think that she is going to one VERY VERY lonelly old lady….”
Try visiting a nursing home and see home many people with children are lonely in their old age. It’s a rather large number : / Having kids is no guarantee
they’ll either(a)care about / for you. Let’s face it, we all could think of someone who was a kind and loving parent who still ended up with a sleazy, uncaring offspring or(b)be physically, mentally or
financially able to provide care. What if someone has a children born with mental disabilities, for instance ? They’d have the worry of finding before their death someone / some place to look after a mentally challenged adult who may or may not be able to hold down a job and cope with everyday life.
And seriously, what one earth is this business of “it’s selfish not to have kids” ? What’s really selfish [and petty]is expecting other people to live your chosen lifestyle, religion, diet or whatever else.
January 25th, 2007 at 5:55 pm
That’s a bold statement but I applaud her for being forthright and honest. And some people are just not made to have children. Some women don’t want it and they shouldn’t! There are way too many parents out there who really shouldn’t have had children because they are way too self-involved to really be a good parent. I’m not saying that Helen Mirren is selfish or anything. But I’m glad she decided kids weren’t for her.
But wow. What I want more than anything in the WORLD is to have children. I want that more than a career, more than anything. I just can’t fathom living sixty years and not having any children! But, to each their own.
January 25th, 2007 at 6:04 pm
“Absolutely not. I am so happy that I didn’t have children.”
I’m really sorry, but this sentence just… I don’t know I think it’s sad too. I agree with Yogadaisy and Laura, having children is a marvellous experience, a unique experience, you receive so much love and you give so much love to your children, it’s an amazing feeling. It’s a wonderful experience as much for a man that for a woman. Nothing is worth that. It’s just my opinion…
January 25th, 2007 at 6:06 pm
Why do people HAVE children?
Why would people bring a human being into this world with all these problems we face?
BECAUSE “THEY” WANT TO…
When you have kids are you thinking of that child or YOURSELF and how fun it will be FOR YOU?
You are ONLY thinking of YOU.
Thats what makes it SELFISH and ONLY selfish.
Not having kids is the SelfLESS thing…
Helen Mirrin is saying in effect, that SHE likes her freedom too much to be able to give a child its DESERVED 100% effort.
She KNOWS shed be a lousy mom and is THINKING ONLY OF THAT CHILD!
SELFLESS!
January 25th, 2007 at 6:13 pm
After spending so much time on this blog I am OVERJOYED that I finally have found a champion on my side of the baby debate!! Thanks so much, Helen for having the courage to voice your very dignified and realistic opinion!!! I am childfree (not childless, by the way) and I feel that too many people try to conform to societal pressures to procreate and the reality is the globe is already busting at the seams in terms of natural resources. I am 35 years old and every once in a while I regret waiting so late to decide whether or not to have children, but I know that when and IF the time is right for me, I will. (As much as I may want to, I can’t make a baby by myself, so meeting and falling in love with a marriageable mate is also a huge part of the decision!) I am also very lucky to have a supportive family that doesn’t put any pressure on me!
The issue of selfishness seems to come up a lot and in my humble opinion, I have seen selfish behavior on both sides: I personally think it’s selfish and a bit narcissistic for people to think the world needs 3,4,5 or 12 of their offspring running around, and it’s also a little selfish to live your whole life on earth and not “give back” any life at all
I thank God every day that I am a woman, and that I do have the CHOICE!!!
January 25th, 2007 at 6:34 pm
When most people choose to have a child, they do not just think about how it’s something “fun” to do. That would be insane. They’re choosing to give someone life…a chance to be happy, sad, experience things, etc. I’m sure most of the time “that child” will appreciate his/her parents deciding to give them a chance at life.
January 25th, 2007 at 6:43 pm
Not everyone is meant to be a parent so it’s ok if some people choose to not have children. It’s their lives not mine.
Now, when it comes to myself, like Stephany, what I want more than anything in the world is to have children.
It’s hard to explain but I just knew I’m meant to be a mother at age of 5.
To me, a child is the most wonderful gift.
January 25th, 2007 at 7:29 pm
Maybe because I do not have children of my own (though as a teacher I am surrouned by children daily) I can applaud her for being honest about her feelings.
This is a very personal decision. There is nothing written in stone that says women must make babies. I mean, I love my job as a teacher, but many people would never make the choice to teach. So why can’t women make thier own choice about having children?
Kuddos to her!!
January 25th, 2007 at 8:03 pm
People are meant to follow different paths
in life. I know older women without
children who have led amazing and fufilling
lives. Not having the responsibilities of
parenting has allowed them to contribute to
the world in other ways.
January 25th, 2007 at 8:07 pm
I’m really appalled by a few of these comments. Here is a woman in her 60s talking about how she loves children but was never meant to have any of her own, and people have the guts to insinuate that she is and/or will be a sad, lonely person because of it? Come on! By that definition, all women who don’t have children for one reason or another are selfish people who will end up lonely and miserable. Although motherhood is undoubtedly the best experience a person can go through, that job comes with a lot of baggage that many are not meant to carry. To criticize someone for thinking ahead and doing what is best for their personal life is ridiculous. And this is coming from someone who hopes to have around four children in the future.
January 25th, 2007 at 8:25 pm
i am 25, i don’t have kids, but i would love them.my life is(as u can probably tell) kinda empty and i am so jealous of ppl who have kids coz they seem so fulfilled and i crave that. i have a cat, but yeah, not the same thing….
i don’t TEND to criticise ppl who don’t want kids, but saying it like that sounds bad, sounds like they think kids are yucky and smelly(though i realise helen didn’t say that). maybe instead they should say “i don’t think kids are right for me” or “i don’t want to be a parent” or something like that. however, i agree some ppl have kids who r clearly not fit to be parents. unfortunately, it’s like buying lottery tickets-u can’t forsee the result.
i wish like crazy that someday i can have little angs of my own(if u knew me, u’d be scared-everyone else i know is when i mention it) but in this world, u take what u can get.
January 25th, 2007 at 9:09 pm
I’m with Ang. I found it a little shocking, not so much what she said, but how she said it. I don’t know, I guess as a mother myself it sounded like… I don’t know, just strange. I certainly think that people should choose whether or not to have children as a personal decision. I don’t care whether or not a person has children since it really doesn’t affect me, so I’m not mad at her for that. We all want different things out of life. The way she said it just kind of caught me off guard.
January 25th, 2007 at 9:32 pm
“my life is(as u can probably tell) kinda empty and i am so jealous of ppl who have kids coz they seem so fulfilled and i crave that.”
Ang, you have to be careful about that kind of stuff. I’ve seen a lot of women who thought a baby would be fulfilling; it’s rather sad to see someone who is baffled why they love their kid so much but didn’t find it to be the much hyped emotional experience.
“the way she said it just kind of caught me off guard.”
Ivonne, how else was she supposed to answer the question ? It sounds like you would be happier with her response if she’d been semi-apologetic. No offense meant when I say that, it’s just that some of the responses have had the feel of “Well, I’d be okay with her not having kids if she said ‘I have a great life. But *sigh* I never made time to have kids, the greatest experience ever.’”
January 25th, 2007 at 9:50 pm
Wow, preesi, what a comment to make about people who have kids. Do you really think that people have them because it’s “fun”? I mean, come on! What kind of a shallow statement is that? Plus, what kind of “problems” are we facing? Do you truly think that we should stop living or giving life because of this mean, bad old world? Please, that is such bull$hit.
January 25th, 2007 at 9:50 pm
If Ms. Mirren feels this way, then it’s a good thing she didn’t have children.
January 25th, 2007 at 10:19 pm
Not all women are meant to be mothers, just like not all women were meant to go to college and follow a career path. Some of us even manage to do both and not go completely nuts. Just be thankful we now have a choice to do what is in our hearts; so let’s stop tearing each other up about our personal decisions. We should start supporting eachother as women (and human beings) and quit bickering, it sets no example for the children.
I’ve known since I was a small child I wanted a serious career in science but I’ve never accused women who wanted to be mothers of missing out on the experience of understanding the universe beyond what they thought possible. I never accuse them of not making a proper contribution to society. Some contribute with their mind, some with their genes and some can do both. We could argue all day over what is the most amazing experience in life, as long as it is positive and we grow as people does it really matter what we choose? It hurts to be talked about like there is something wrong with you because you don’t have or want children, especially when you are working to make the world a better place for those people who have time for children.
January 25th, 2007 at 11:07 pm
Preesi, I think your statements are very ignorant. To imply that having children is completely selfish and that people simply choose to have them because it is “fun” is ridiculous. If that were the case, why would some people wait as long as they do for the right time in their lives to reproduce? It’s because they want to wait until they are willing to sacrifice the rest of their lives to take care of another person who will hopefully grow into a completely capable human being and have a positive effect on future generations. Granted, not all people feel this way, but many of them do. And that, to me, is very selfless.
I also applaud Helen Mirren for her honesty. Here she is saying she’s happy and that she’s made the right decision, and we still have people on these boards saying that she’s “missing out”. Reality Check: Not everyone is the same! If a world traveler told a mother that she had missed out in life because she had kids and never got to see the seven wonders of the world, she would probably disagree because in her eyes, her children made her life perfect. Where, if a mother told a childless world traveler that he/she missed out because they never had kids, they would probably also disagree because they had seen and experienced the most beautiful places in the world. So it’s not fair to determine how one human being is missing out on something “amazing”, because if they feel that their life has been great and is complete as is, there’s obviously nothing missing.
Also, what about Oprah? She has openly said many times that she chose not to have children and that she does not regret it. Do people feel sorry for her for missing out, too?
January 25th, 2007 at 11:20 pm
“To tell you the truth, I feel sorry for her. She’s missed out on a lot, yet she has no idea how much. There is nothing as amazing as having your own child. Nothing can top that. And I think it IS selfish to not have children. Everyone I know who doesn’t want kids always cites needing to retain “their freedom”. Sounds selfish to me.”
Laura B, a few of my aunts who aren’t married/are married/ may be in relationships chose not to have children, but do have nieces/nephews, maybe even some godchildren, and their lives are quite full. It has nothing to do with being selfish, nor are any of them lonely, sad, etc. It’s because they chose not to, knew being a mother just wasn’t something they were going to fall into line with doing. All of them love children, but their lives are fine without any of their own. I say it’s a courageous thing to know what you want and stick with it, not falter because people want to know why they don’t have children, try to guilt them for not having any.
I’d say they did some justice by not having children when they know that. Knowing being a mother to a child is a lot better than having one despite that and then feeling like you shouldn’t have done so in the first place. To be that decisive and still be happy, even without kids, that is their choice. It doesn’t mean they’re going to be miserable without a child of their own. It just means their life is just one that’s going to be good whether they have a child or not. I’d rather not have a child if I am not able to raise one the way I know I would be able to.
Hell, most of them have been able to do a number of things since they are without children. Most of their jobs have them flying all over creation, staying gone for weeks on end, allowing them to pay the bills, go on trips and so forth, most of which wouldn’t have been done if they had a child, at least not as easily. I mean, sometimes their job isn’t going to mesh with having children, and again, that is their choice. Saying they’re remotely wrong for not having a child is just as bad as dictating what a person can or cannot do in this world.
If I can’t give a child the love and attention they need, for whatever reason, good or bad, then I would rather not have one until I was able to.
January 26th, 2007 at 12:54 am
This comment is to LaisyDaisyLakes: If you happen to read this, and if I have read it right, you are raising your niece – Big Kudos to you for selflessly raising not only your own kids but him/her too! I love hearing this kind of thing.
My own life has been sort of sad and messed up. I always wanted to be a Mom, but in hindsight, it’s a good thing I didn’t marry any of my prior boyfriends because I wasn’t ready. So, I have become a special auntie and godmom to family members and have a darling dog. Does this make me selfish?
January 26th, 2007 at 2:06 am
ITA with Megan and Cali, you’re comments are very true! This ‘to have kids or not’ debate makes me more open-minded especially about the latter. It’s really about choices, knowing what you want in life and your happiness. There’s no issue of selfishness at all, it’s pretty hard to be judge that way, that is so unfair!
And as long as you’re secure of your choices whether to have kids or not you’re not missing on anything coz our ‘happiness’ is diffent from one another and let’s respect that.
January 26th, 2007 at 4:06 am
“No. Absolutely not. Absolutely not. I am so happy that I didn’t have children”
It’s certainly a blunt statement, and almost a little insulting towards parents. If the question was about something else and she had said “I’m so happy that I’m not a waitress” then the waitresses of this world would feel insulted. So I can understand how her statement leaves parents feeling a bit defensive.
But I dare say Helen Mirren has been defending her choide not to have children for the better part of 40 years and she (like anyone would be) is probably sick to death of that question!! My response would be a little blunt too, in that situation…
January 26th, 2007 at 9:24 am
I don’t think not having children is anymore or any less selfish than having children. I think it really depends are your reasons. And like others have said, you have children because you want to. That is definitely selfish. I do want children but I am not blind to the fact that “wanting” children (Particularly that I want to give birth to my own children) IS selfish.
Good for her realizing that she didn’t want children, if she had children just because someday, she will be a lonely old lady, how selfish would THAT be!
I know people that don’t want kids and it really appalls me how people react to that, ITS NO ONE elses business!
January 26th, 2007 at 10:25 am
I do not see anything wrong with not wanting kids, but if you don’t have kids, don’t say it’s a selfish act. Yes it’s a tough world but especially if you are a spiritual person, giving life to someone is still life’s biggest gift. For good parents, having children is selfLESS. I gave up a lot the day my son was born, it is about him now, and his happiness, not mine, although his happiness makes me happy. Life has lost its superficiality, it’s a different level. People who don’t want kids- there is nothing wrong with that! But having children was meant to be selfless…it’s just some people make it selfISH.
January 26th, 2007 at 12:59 pm
She didn’t want to have kids that is her perogative. Kudos to her. Yes having my daughter is a wonderful experience!! But how do we know that it would be a wonderful experience to everyone? I know women who have kids who do not even seem phased by it and still go about their own ways constantly leaving the baby with a sitter. So just because we moms think “she is missing out on the best thing” in reality she isn’t because she doesnt desire kids. I would rather people who do not want to have kids, NOT have them!!
January 27th, 2007 at 9:31 am
I saw that interview and I thought Helen was very intelligent and very funny.
It’s a shame that a woman has to be questioned about her life choices if she decides not to have children. Why should it matter? It’s as if someone is saying your life in meaningless if you don’t have children. Having a child may be the biggest joy in most people’s lives, but those without children are not living joyless, meaningless lives.
I think deciding to not have children is not selfish. There are many reasons behind that choice, and it doesn’t mean that you want freedom so that you can go out and party and travel or be irresponsible. And it’s not about thinking that you wouldn’t be a good mother either. It’s just about making a decision that is best for your life. And women shouldn’t judge or tear each other down over each other’s choices.
January 28th, 2007 at 12:36 am
I aplaud Helen for saying this. I believe that you should know 100% that you want children before you have them. I’m a nanny so I’ve seen both sides of the coin. I hear a lot how having children is this wonderful life changing experience and it’s the greatest thing in the world, etc., but I’ve met many women who either hate being parents or are totally neutral to the whole thing. Yes, I think the former reaction is more “natural”, but there are still a lot of people with the latter reactions. Being a mother is not for everyone, and I think it’s for a lot less people than are mothers righ now. I had an aunt who had 3 children in 6 years, resented them, and basically neglected them. That’s one of the reasons I’m leaning towards not having children. I feel that I might do the same thing. People tell me constantly that I won’t, but shouldn’t I know my own soul better than them? Should I take that gamble with another life? It’s so strange to me how people kind of try to force others to have children. And I hate how the whole selfish vs. selfless things plays out. I think that parents who call childfree people selfsih are a little bit resentful of their lives and their freedom and maybe regret just a little having children. Otherwise they wouldn’t get so ticked off.
January 29th, 2007 at 2:22 pm
Just a note to Liz to say that I am not at all ticked off about Helen Mirren saying what she said, I just feel bad for her that she doesn’t know what she’s missing. I’m very surprised that on a celebrity baby site that I appear to be in the minority for saying this. And come on, there is no question that the majority of the people who don’t want to have children are doing it for selfish reasons. Please…
January 29th, 2007 at 2:32 pm
I am so glad that the article about Helen was added to the site when it was. I had just finally admitted to myself after months of thinking about it that I too don’t want to have myon biological child. Though, my situation is different as me and my bf have decided to foster, so we won’t be childless, but I applaud her for being so honest, and let’s face it she hasn’t created another little person with a guilt hang-up – there are already enough of them in the world.
January 30th, 2007 at 4:04 am
Laura B.:
Helen Mirren doesn’t need your sympathy. She’s living a perfectly happy and fulfilling life without it. I have read all the comments in this discussion…it seems most of the people are educated, open-minded people. No offence…but reading your comments make me think of somebody who has lived their life in a traditional community (e.g. the Red States in the U.S.?) where having children is considered a crucial part of life (I know what it’s like to come across people with such views…my parents came from rural China and were just expected to have children…unfortunately, they have not turned out to be good parents (to say the least)). My advice to you is to never use words like “there is no question” when your dealing with such a sensitive issue in a public arena (it’s better to use strong words like that when you’re around your own “type”). It can have the adverse effect of making you come off across a little ignorant and close-minded (especially on this discussion board where you’re clearly in the minority). In closing, I’d like to say if you feel directly offended by my comments, I would like to apologize in advance (but you must understand that this is a very personal issue for me because I was raised by two people who I do not believe should have become parents because they had too many of their own issues!).
February 1st, 2007 at 8:26 pm
sorry kori, but you sound defensive even though you’re the one who set the tone of the debate by declaring selfish people shouldn’t have children. you seem to be equating wanting or cherishing personal freedom with selfishness. Helen is being true to herself and I applaud her for that. And to Laura, news flash, you needn’t feel sorry for Helen, you don’t seem to get it luv, she isn’t missing anything. And the silly argument that people who don’t want children are selfish is moronic at best. How’d you like it if I said that you’re selfish because you have this idea that your dna must be passed on even in this volitile, hostile, overpopulated world that we live in.
February 1st, 2007 at 9:57 pm
I have become deeply disturbed about “This polluted, Overpopulated world we live in” debate. That is not a reason to not have children. Just like STD’s aren’t completely the reason to be celibate (Everyone finds their way around situations). Everyone has their own opinions! yes! But that is just a very tacky excuse! Some things are just unavoidable, so life goes on!
March 12th, 2007 at 11:19 pm
It’s so nauseating to hear everyone cheering children on. Most who decide to have children pro-create in the heat of passion, and I believe they regret the decision, when their bank accounts run dry, they have sleepless nights, need to worry about predators, accidents, get divorces, families fall apart, kids are on crack, etc. Besides, isn’t global warming a direct affect of overpopulation??? My husband and I have been married almost ten years…nearing 40 years old, and we agreed we did not want children on our first date! The sex is ALWAYS AWESOME, we can walk around in our undies, we own very nice things that we’ve worked hard for that children have not destroyed, a 100K sports car, and none of these things would be possible if we had children. By the way, people having or not having children are not the selfish ones…..the children are! No getting around that! My life is exactly the way I want it….you are the creator of your own destiny. These are just my personal views–doesn’t make me wrong or right…just right for myself!
September 18th, 2007 at 11:48 pm
I have three children; all teenagers. I loved raising them. If Helen did not want children, that is a personal decision. I loved Helen in 2010: Oddesy 2 and I hope Oliver Stone decides to put to film 3001: The Final Oddesy.