People is just rude always. If you are over 30 and have not get married they ask you why like the question is acceptable. If you are married and have no children they as you why, maybe you can’t have them and it is painful, maybe you just do not want to. If you are breast feeding a toddler they judge you, if you decide not to breastfedd they judge you. People just doesn’t know that a private life includes all these things and that it is not of their business. The worst is that your own family comes with this stupid questions. At one point I had to said that I was gay to stop my parents and friends to keep asking when I was going to get married. I finally did when the right person came along but I had very hard years after I was 29 because people thinks they are not doing anything wrong asking.

People who don’t have children tend to be extremely negative and make it sound like those who have kids are missing out on a life when many people who have children are in fact a lot happier than those who don’t have any children.

To the lady’s comments that Rachel Ray does not know what shes missing by not having kids- are you kidding!!! Do you know what your missing by not having Rachel Rays lifestyle ??? Freedom,Financial independence,a stimulating career you truly love,tons of friends,fans,and loving family,the opportunity to travel to fascinating exotic lands and truly appreciate different cultures and experiencing all the beautiful breathtaking scenery in the world that few can only imagine !!! Whats more,RR presents herself as a compassionate,well adjusted,fun loving person whos generous charitable financial gifts will touch the hearts and help more children in the world than you can dream of !!! Yeah.poor,poor Rachel Ray,not wanting children just puts her in the ranks of Oprah,… and Jesus ! Its great you enjoy and love your kids,but selfish and short sighted of you to think theres no life more fulfilling than your little path you took. In fact,its pretty snooty, and ignorant.A lot of people I know actually have kids for extremly selfish reasons…like to brag about as status symbols,or to make sure they have someone to clean-up after them in their old age. Im glad Rachel Ray isnt so small minded and is self assured enough to tell it like it is to the but-inskys.

I’m in my early 40’s, married, and have no children and my husband accepts that fate and has decided that we can live together perfectly, without children, because we love each other. I remember a particular incident about three years ago when a woman asked me if I were going to have children. She asked it in such a superior, scathing way as if there was something wrong with me because I’d been married for two years and had not yet had a child. (She had just given birth.) I thought it was such an obnoxious, invasive question because this woman was not even a friend of mine. The decision to have or not have children is a personal one between a woman and her husband and no one else should interfere. This woman was not aware that I am unable to have children and this is one of the reasons why it is so dicey to ask a woman such an intimate question. Women who have children really do feel like they are superior to women who do not have children and that is very sad and vexing. Having children is like a badge of honor to some women. I am no less of a woman because I am childless. In fact, when I took my marriage vows, I did not vow to love, honor, and bear children by any means necessary just to make other people happy. Even the churches are aware that not every woman can, or should, have children. It is presumptuous for people, especially women, to judge another person’s decision not to have children—whatever their reasons. In fact, it is downright hateful. If you can judge a woman for not having children, then why can’t that childless woman turn around and judge another woman’s competence as a mother!? Or say a woman whose child died in childbirth? Perhaps God knows that she was going to be a bad mother and took her child before she could mess up its life. Or a woman whose child died when he or she was a toddler? Do you see how nasty these judgmenet can get? So, all those of you who are judging Rachel’s decision not to have children, get off your high horses and mind your own business.

Helen

Rachael is a mom already…to her dog..she treats her dog bettter than many a mom treats her kids!!!!!! She says she is guilty that she doesn’t spend time with her dog…that is truly a special person…she does lots for kids..with her money..so that some moms don’t have to feel guilty as much, cause rachael uses her money to help others that can’t help themselves

its her choice but what happens if she regrets it later on to me she needs to get over herself and relax a bit from her hectic work schedule. who cares anyway. i used to like rachael ray but she is so fake. i cant believe you guys are falling for it.

Selfishness is on the rise and refusing to be a parent is just a sad example of this condition. How much wealth and celebrity must someone posess before they will share it with the most precious thing on Earth, children. Too bad for those who never outgrow the sadly selfish state that denies them the greatest rewards of honorbly passing on the true love and joy of life by creating and rearing the beings that will forever love you for the gift of life.

never mind if rachel ray is in a happy marriage – get to the point – this horny pervert wants to know if john makes her squeal like a pig in bed

Melissa my background is similar to yours. My mother had children only because my dad pressured her into it. She never wanted kids, she wanted a career.
My sisters and I experienced the mental and physical abuse of a mother who was very unhappy with her lot in life.
Most women didn’t work outside the home in those days but as soon as my younger sister was old enough for me to take care of my mother went back to work. She became a lot nicer although never a better mother.
It is not the Childfree who are selfish. People who give no thought to having kids and just have them or people who have them because Society or a spouse tells them they are not normal if they don’t are the selfish ones.
Many people give more thought to buying a new car than having kids.