Sheryl, mama i couldn’t be more delighted unless it was my sister or cousin bringing in a new amazing person to get to know. It was such an adventure seeing things though their eyes as you teach them and as they explore and find out things on their own. i would almost have to classify as mystical. you know he looks a great deal like someone who has a birthday the very next day. Has those nice long finger to be able to get all over the guitar, piano what ever makes the hair stand up on the back of his sweet little neck. i know it’s a little early to talk about but we got my sweet little niece a real pro (pink)guitar when she turned 6 we’ll see how it goes. much gratitude, respect,and blesings for hlm and his extended family. all the best
joni

Lea- the fact is that you have to tell your child that they are adopted now-a-days. With stuff like family medical histories and the whole DNA decoding going on it would be hard to keep it a secret from the child for long and it is much better to grow up knowing that you were adopted then to just find out when you turn eighteen or something like that. And as for the fact that closed adoption is detrimental to a childs upbringing, being brought up in a loving home where the two people caring for you wanted you so badly that they sought you out and picked you only makes a child feel special. The whole process can be stressful on a child but it is up to the parents, both sets, to figure out what is best for the child. If the adoptive parents are a stable family the birthmother may choose to keep it closed, so as not to intrude on the family that she helped create.

Sheryl and Wyatt!! What a beautiful family you make!! I’ve been a long-time fan and adore your latest album, Detours. I lose myself in your enchanting music and inspiring lyrics. God bless you both and may you live happily ever after!!

Congrats to Sheryl and her little man! So very cute!

Personally I don’t have it in me to adopt. However, I am a strong proponent of adoption. Does that make any sense? I agree that there should be no distinction between your biological children and your adopted children (and that’s one reason it’s not for me: I wouldn’t be able to do that).

And even if I did adopt, I could not see myself choosing open adoption. That is just not in my personality. There is no “better” choice between open and closed adoptions. When I grew up I knew quite a few friends who were adopted in a closed situation, and they were/are very well adjusted and happy.

An open adoption is the right thing according to the research for most people, however each adotpion is unique and we are not privy to the facts. The important thing is that the adoptive home is HONEST all the time that there has been an adoption, and that the child will be able to find birth family when they reach 21 if not before. Congratulations to Sheryl – I am glad you have help in this venture from a nurse, because rearing a child in mid-forties is definitey difficult, but this way you will get to enjoy him, and he you. We have to remember that every adoptive child is a special needs child due to the trauma of this early separation from bio. mom, and we need to give that little bit more quality attention to him. BB.

Im wondering if it is the “birth mothers” and or birth faters choice of the closed adoption..and not Sheryls…My 22 year old brother is adopted from a teenage family member who wanted to move on with her life..and apparently not look back..she has had opportunity and has chose not to be a part of his life..that is hurtful to him to be reminded that she doesnt want to acknowledge him ..over and over again..a lifetime of hurt…It is the way is if it needs to change as Wyatt grows it will Sheryl is intuitive and she knows what feels right..Congratulations!

Most “birthmothers” who give their children away don’t deserve to be called a mothers.
Mother is not the one who gave birth, but the one who raised the child. What you don’t know would’t hurt you. If my adopted child does’t know that she is adopted than it would never hurt her. It’s not a lie it called (I don’t know the term) protection, child changes identity and birth, child get new birth certificate and and a real mother who deservs to be called a mother. My adoption will be international, from europe, identity will be changed and no one exept me’ll know. My adopted child deserve to be my own without any “birthmothers” hanging around. If they would love their children they would’t conceive them, do a vasectomy for God’s sake and dont’ pop-up babies like a brainless rabbit. We are not anymals.
Love mean love and responsibility, it’ not like you wake up after 9 month and oops..I can’t raise the baby, they know damn well they can’t raise them in advance but still conceive.
We should feel sorry for those poore babies, not for their looser “bio-mothers”.

I just found out days ago that she’d adopted and it came as a shock to me. Good on her for keeping it under wraps for so long. She’s one of the lucky ones to not have the stress of news outlets and other sorts of press trying to pick at her for more info.

But anyway, little Wyatt is adorable and I think motherhood agrees with Sheryl. I’d be willing to say she already has that glow of a new mom.

he is such a beautiful boy

Lea – do you not think your child has a right as a human being to know he or she is adopted? What happens if/when the first mother comes looking for him/her when older? Do you think your child would turn about and say “thanks Mom for keeping this major part of my life from me?” Adopted children have a biological family and an adoptive family. Trying to pretend otherwise isn’t going to change that. There’s lots of good books on adoption, I would suggest you do some reading first.