In her interview in Vanity fair she said “I try to have a baby but couldn’t, so that’s when we adopt Bella. There’s a complicated background to that, given that I never speak much about many things. One day maybe that story will be told.”
I think the complicated background she is talking about is that she reportedly had an ectopic pregnancy (you can google it its in many of her online biography), and in 1991 was hospitalized for removal of scar tissue.

Maybe Nicole’s younger sister will donate some eggs if Nicole cannot produce enough healthy ones for IVF and can’t get pregnant on her own? This is one way she could have abio connection with her children, if that is important to her. I have a feeling she’s going to be using donor eggs either way (whether they are related to her or not) – though as an adoptive mother, she must know more than anybody that genetics don’t really factor into how much you love your child. I really hope she can get pregnant, if that’s what she wants. I’m wondering, however, if Keith is even interested in being a father. Who knows?

“Having children later in life (beginning at 35) increases your chances of cancer and I see it as a bit selfish in some ways. Your kids may not have a healthy mother…”

Erin: From what I’ve read I believe it’s actually for anyone over the age of 30. But it is only one of the factors that could lead to breast cancer, and not the only factor. So I don’t see how it’s selfish of a person to delay having a child until they’re ready. Yes, it’s great for a child to have a healthy mother. But it’s also incredibly important for children to have parents who are emotionally and financially ready to have a child, and if a person isn’t ready in their twenties then I see nothing unselfish about waiting. In fact, I think it would be selfish to have a child before you’re really ready just because that’s what the latest research study advises. There are so many things that can cause cancer that it would be a shame for a person to alter their whole life around avoiding any possible thing that might be a factor – particularly for people who don’t have any of the other risk factors.

1. Having a miscarriage doesn’t mean you have “all kinds of fertility problems”.

2. Adoption isn’t a last resort.

3. Yes, she’s older…my mother was 38 when I was born and 41 when she had my sister. She died of breast cancer a week before her 52nd birthday. Having children later in life (beginning at 35) increases your chances of cancer and I see it as a bit selfish in some ways. Your kids may not have a healthy mother…

4. I adore this couple. He’s an amazing musician and she’s a fantastic actress – they seem very “normal” and in love…hope whatever their dreams are come true.

Eclaire: What an incredibly insensitive thing to say. Did you ever stop to consider that some people don’t get to make the decision about biological children, their bodies make the decision for them. Just because she has not gotten pregnant yet does not mean that it was her choice.

Perhaps Kidman and Urban expect to try conceiving with Donor Eggs (DE) if she cannot successfully conceive and carry a child to term. Although many older celebrity moms refuse to discuss the issue, almost all Reproductive Endocronologists will tell you that women over the age of 44 who’ve never been pregnant before almost always (98% of the time) succeed only when using DE.

As a mother who has already built her family through adoption, Kidman might be quite content to use DE. She may want the experience of pregnancy and breastfeeding but not care about having a genetic connection to any of her other children, either.

Also, just because Kidman miscarried twice, and Holmes was quickly successful with her pregnancy, does not mean that Kidman was “at fault” for her first family’s infertility. Perhaps after the pain of the miscarriage, Kidman and Cruise rapidly pursued adoption, expecting later to conceive another biological child, but career or a declining marriage interrupted those plans. Perhaps the early miscarriage was the result of a translocation in Tom’s sperm, which wouldn’t typically affect ALL sperm, thus allowing him to successfully conceive over time or with a bit of luck.

Frankly, there’s no way to know the causes of any particular couple’s infertility unless they choose to share the details with the world. Clearly Cruise and Kidman (and Mimi Rogers before that — she was once reported to have wanted children with Cruise herself) choose to keep the details private.

I agree with Campbell who mentioned that for all we know, Nicole has had some eggs frozen. When I read that Nicole had mentioned waiting a couple years, I thought, “here we go with the comments about her getting too old to conceive, etc…” Perhaps Nicole will chose to adopt again, who knows…I would think that she realizes her chances of having a biological child are getting slim as the years go by…I would imagine/hope Nicole has some sort of plan in place!

I dont agree that the reason for her not being pregnant (or trying) for children is due to Keith not coming around. Nicole is a renowned workaholic.

I have seen and read numerous interviews with Keith and he always seems keen and eager to become a dad asap.

I dont like to be pessimistic but I would bet money that Nicole will not have a biological child.

One never really knows the facts, but I think she made her decision not to have children biologically a while ago. Her actions do not corrolate with her words, and from my perspective her talk is just froth and bubble.

“however I do think that if all these Hollywood women in their 40s know full well about the risks of waiting until that age to conceive, they should stop acting as though the biological clock doesn’t exist, because it doesn’t do any favours to the thousands of women out there who are unaware of how much your fertility declines as you age”

ZaraB: It’s very unfair to expect the celebrities to be well informed on issues of fertility at the same time that you’re giving the rest of the women in America a free pass to be ignorant about such important issues.

It is not the job of the celebrities to provide us with fertility information, it is our responsibility to seek that information out from doctors and not from celebrities. If a person isn’t mature enough to seek out medical information from legitimate sources then that’s their problem and not the celebrities problem. People need to take some responsiblity for their own choices and stop blaming celebrities and the media for their decisions.

Maybe Nicole means she and Keith will adopt a newborn? That’s a possibility, too.

I wonder what she means that there is a long story behind adopting Bella. I had once heard a rumor that Tom and Nicole’s children were the biological kids of Scientologists who were too busy in their work with the church to raise them, so it was arranged by the church of Scientology that Tom and Nicole adopt them. That may be a totally bizarre rumor.

Either way, I think it’s clear Tom and Nicole are both good parents who really love their kids. Despite all the gossip, the two seem to have worked out a great co-parenting relationship.