Comments on: Blessence Maternity’s ‘Adoption is the new pregnant’ tee touches a nerve with CBB Readers

By: Lynnie Lane-Stricker

Lynnie Lane-Stricker — Fri, 21 Aug 2009 03:11:08 +0000

Hi there!
I too design maternity tees and have an online store. Creating new designs for maternity tees can be very touchy and even though the tee was not meant to offend in anyway, it obviously rubbed a lot of people the wrong way. I too have a tee that offended some. I designed a tee for all the moms-2-be that have husbands or themselves are in the military. It simply reads ‘Mission Accomplished’ Even though the tee sells very well and has meaning and is fun for those in the military, it still offended some. I think the best thing we designers can do is try our best to stay tasteful in our designs and keep pregnancy a beautiful thing. I have learned that you can not please everyone and everyone is entitled to their opinion. I try my very best to design tees that are humorous, yet tasteful and pleasing to all. I try to keep this beautiful event in a woman’s life fun with a little light hearted humor. I think all of us designers do a pretty good job and I think we all have a wonderful time adding a little humor to those long 9 months! Lynnie @ Apple & Eve Maternity

By: Lisa

Lisa — Sat, 28 Jun 2008 06:35:29 +0000

Oh for heaven's sake. Don't you people have something else to complain about? Thank God for the loving familes who adopt! Wish them well and quit fussing about a t-shirt that announces motherhood. The process of becoming a parent might have taken a different path from yours, but it's still parenthood....we're all in the same club, okay? I have a maternity store and many of my customers have both had babies and adopted and I can't imagine any of them begrudging a new mother a chance to celebrate her "pregnancy" Sheeesh.
Love and kisses to all brave parents!

By: SARAH

SARAH — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 03:59:46 +0000

I find this t-shirt to be highly offensive, adoption could never be the new pregnant...lets get real they are not pregnant! To try and act as if pregnancy is nothing is insane. I think people who adopt should have MORE respect for women who give birth.

By: Julie

Julie — Tue, 24 Jun 2008 12:57:07 +0000

Hey, I think the "Adoption is the New Pregnant" T-Shirt is a great idea! It gives older single women like me encouragement.

I get the idea that I would not be any less of a woman or mother if I were to adopt. I had considered it over pregnancy since my early 20s anyway.

In fact, I am tired of the pressure that you should be married by a certain age. I would like to have my own child, but I am tired of the pressure.

By: Greedy Desparate Infertile

Greedy Desparate Infertile — Fri, 25 Apr 2008 03:50:56 +0000

Barb,
I never said pregnancy and adoption were the same.
If you took the time to read all of my posts you would see that.

If you had read all of the posts you would also see that I don't condone this t-shirt or it's message.

Living in the real world, thanks.

By: tiggerlover

tiggerlover — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 18:10:59 +0000

Why would you even think that this tee shirt would come accross as positive?? What were you smoking at the time you came up with this one???? Really, you must have a deep seated dislike for your bio-mom to insult her in this manner. What a really great way to say you appreciate the fact that she didn't abort you, that she carried you for nine months, that she probably would have rather given her right arm instead of you.

By: BSERI

BSERI — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 05:42:32 +0000

“Relinquishing mothers have more grief symptoms than women who have lost a child to death, including more denial; despair, atypical responses; and disturbances in sleep, appetite, and vigor.” Askren, H., & Bloom, K. (1999) Post-adoptive reactions of the relinquishing mother: A review. Journal of Obstetric, Gynecological and Neonatal Nursing, 1999 Jul-Aug; 28(4)

By: Barb

Barb — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 05:11:47 +0000

GreedyDesperateInfertile wrote:

(speaking about grief) "Quite simply they can't be compared."

....just as adoption can not be compared to pregnancy, Greedy.

You'd have to be living in a cartoon world to believe they are the same.

By: MamaRobina

MamaRobina — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 00:54:20 +0000

"Paper Pregnant" is not pregnant, adoption is not the "new pregnant" and the paperwork that is done to acquire a child is NOT labor. I defy anyone who thinks along these lines to experience gestation, labor and birth and make this comparison. Since most of those who make this comparison are unable to conceive, the comparison is based on very incomplete information.

The poll asked if I found the tee shirt "offensive." I find it more than that. I find it painful, inaccurate and an insult to the natural family. If people must adopt, then be realistic about what it includes, and that does mean original parents, different genetics and special circumstances for the child involved. Don't make it harder than it already is.

By: tish

tish — Wed, 23 Apr 2008 13:48:59 +0000

GDI...

i quit. seriously, the circular logic is distracting to the discourse.

be well.