If she has to “force” herself to get pregnant again than maybe she shouldn’t get pregnant. And if adoption is an option and she would rather go that way then maybe that’s the best decision for her and her husband to make.

Doesn’t it cost thousands of dollars to adopt?? Seems just as presumptuous for people to say “just adopt” as it does for them to say “just deal with the morning sickness and get pregnant again” if they don’t know you or your story.

i think if she feels so strongly about the actual being pregnant part, she should adopt. she’ll get the child without all the other stuff. that’s what it seems like she really wants. and like she said, she’s fortunate and can give a good home to a child.

I haven’t even had kids yet, but I am already worrying about what pregnancy wil be like. I already have problems with my hormones causing me to feel horrible and I can only wonder how they will be during pregnancy (I probably won’t be a real pleasure to live with!!) I know for sure I will have back labor, which just thrills me to no end! I want two kids someday, but who knows, I may have one and never want to do it again.

P.S. But the end result in my opinion is what would make it all worth it for me!!

Adopt instead!

It is hard for me to think about getting pregnant again too!! I want a sibling for my son so very much, but between my crippling back pain (which I am told, due to my anatomy, I will suffer through each pregnancy) and high blood pressure (which may make me unable to work and therefore, completely broke =) ) it is something I really have to think about beforehand (not to mention the fact that I didn’t produce milk so had to buy pricey formula and my son has had difficult breathing issues)… It is easy for people who had easy pregnancies to dismiss her comment. Others know better =) Sorry — I am just venting! Have been asked way too many times recently when we are having another one and I wish I could list off all of these considerations!!!! Most people don’t want to hear this though!

I have an 8 year old son, my only pregnancy, and it just destroyed me. Permanently changed my hormonal levels, left me with major depression (a lifetime of pills there) and horrible skin.
I always wanted a houseful of kids, just like my mom, I watched her skate through four pregnancies. I’d kill to have another one, but who knows what might happen if I have another pregnancy?
Far too many people don’t talk about bad pregnancies. I had a healthy child, and I would never choose to not have him, given the choice again, but I wish I had known what could have happened before hand. That it’s not all glowing skin and rampant hair growth.

Oh come on, we all force ourselves to do somethings we hate for the result we love (i.e. going to get that root canal, dieting, the killer step class…) She’s just being honest, and she has every right to feel how she does and choose what she wants to do without other people passing judgment…

Well lets see, if you have to “force yourself” then dont do it. Besides it sounds like she is having a 3rd because of how others feel about it…ie, he dad saying he wished he would have had more. Just those 2 things together would make me not do it.

That being said, I have 4 kids, 8 pregnancies. With my oldest daughter I threw up every single day, sometimes more than once, until she was 3 WEEKS OLD! Yes, it didnt stop after she was born, doc said because of the chemicals in my body I still had morning sickness. With my 3rd pregnancy I threw up everyday and then lost both babies at 10 weeks, that was heartbreaking, to be so sick and have it go all so wrong.

THe only pregnancy I didnt throw up every day was my 3rd daughter which made me really think it would be a boy, but nope shes all girl..) I have to say that I never once “forced myself” to become pregnant, Maybe its because I was too busy feeling so blessed and fortunate to complain. I would think everyday about the people unable to have any child and would give ANYTHING To have morning sickness.

Having a child me putting on your big girl panties and dealing with things…from morning sickness to your kid peeing in your bed…and everything in between.

Her statement really hit a nerve, do ya think? LOL

Even though she hated pregnancy, I think she will have another bio child not adopt. Just my opinion for some reason