Lynne Spears says Jamie Lynn is wise for her age
Calling her 17-year-old daughter Jamie Lynn an "old soul" who is "very wise at such a young age," Lynne Spears is clearly one proud mama. She tells OK! that Jamie Lynn — who herself welcomed daughter Maddie Briann 3 weeks ago — will be "a very good mom" because "she’s warm and nurturing." But the most fun, Lynne says "will be when she’s the soccer mom, the carpool mom," adding "that was the most fun I had as a mother." It was the mom in Lynne that breathed a big sigh of relief when Jamie’s labor and delivery went off without a hitch. Noting that the women in her family "have a history of difficult labors," Lynne says she "didn’t want [Jamie Lynn] to be terrified and never want to have another" child. She added,
But my goodness, she just flew right on through it.
Seeing Jamie Lynn, her fiancé Casey Aldridge and Maddie together for the first time as a family was "indescribable" for Lynne, whom her grandchildren call ‘Me-Ma.’ "Oh, my god," she said, "That is one of your most precious moments ever."
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July 12th, 2008 at 2:37 pm
Aww, I love the ‘Mema’ name for Lynne….that’s what we call my Grandma. My Mom refused to let her Grandkids call her that, she said it made her feel too much like her own Mother (lol), so she goes by Mimi.
I’m happy for them…little girls are so much fun!
July 12th, 2008 at 2:42 pm
You know, I agree. Jamie Lynn seems to be taking her situation in stride and I can totally see her being a soccer mom someday!
July 12th, 2008 at 2:58 pm
Me-Ma is a southern name but we all spell it Me-maw down in Texas. Just like Paw-Paw.
July 12th, 2008 at 3:16 pm
Wise for her age? Pregnant at 16 is not wise. And before anyone jumps down my throat–I am in no way in denial about the fact that teenagers have sex and am not here to argue about the morality of it. But really being wise would mean having the foresight to use protection or wait until you’re mentally, emotionally, and/or financially able to care for a child (unfortunately I do realize that there are many older moms who don’t fit this profile, so I’m not discriminating against teenage mothers.) After what happened with Britney the last thing I would have done if I were Jamie Lynn would be to speak so loudly about waiting for marriage to have sex, especially since she ended up pregnant so young.
I do think it’s excellent how supportive Lynne has been towards Jamie Lynn and unlike a few others I don’t think she was selling her daughter out to OK! Magazine; I think she took a situation that already existed (the pregnancy) and tried her best to secure at least financially her daughter and grandchild.
July 12th, 2008 at 3:28 pm
Erica – For just a second, just think about what you’re saying. For all you know she could have been on both the pill and using a condom. It is NEVER 100%. I have three close friends who have gotten pregnant while on the pill. Please!
Jamie Lynn is not her sister. She is her own person. For all you know, she could be very much the mature person she needs to be to raise her child. Not all 17 year olds are children, in A LOT of countries over the world, 17 is a prefectly normal and standard age to have children. I am surprised your comment even made it on here. I thought there were rules against flaming remarks.
July 12th, 2008 at 3:40 pm
Jamie Lynne messed up and got pregnant, big whoop it happens! Unlike he older sister and most of young hollywood she’s mostly avoided the media. She bought a 3bedroom house in middle-of-nowhere Missippi not a huge mansion in L.A. and laid low. She got pregnant and stepped up to the plate and acted in her baby’s best interest. I think Jamie deserves a lot of respect for that.
July 12th, 2008 at 4:08 pm
I love how people seem to think “protection” is 110% protective against pregnancy. Erica – No one ever said she wasnt on the pill, no one said she never used a condom or any of the other types of birth control. Last I checked, no matter if its your first or 15th time having sex. Weather you use every type of birth control, you can get pregnant.
No one need to pusing “no marriage till sex” down our throats. It’s not for everyone, nor should it be.
July 12th, 2008 at 4:10 pm
People are overlooking the reason why I personally think Jamie Lynne and Britney are in these situations….It’s because of their mother, Lynne Spears, and their father! SHE was a soccer mom? Please! If I remember correctly she had her daughter Britney dancing around in a slutty school girl uniform when she was 15 and her daughter Jamie Lynn on TV at an even younger age! Thant’s why they’re in the bad situations their in now – one that has a teenage pregnancy and the other has 2 kids she can’t even see because she’s on too many drugs…It’s BECAUSE of their upbringing! It seems though that they’re both making the best of it… but that “soccer mom like I was” comment by Lynne Spears made me laugh. Give me a break. I don’t think she was the typical soccer mom she thinks she was.
July 12th, 2008 at 4:56 pm
Question, before anyone says she should have used both pill and condoms: Do 30 year old women in committed relationships use both the pill AND a condom?
July 12th, 2008 at 5:04 pm
I think that this talk all needs to stop!!! I don’t support what she did but it happens. And mistakes are a part of life and she is trying to deal with this the best that she can with the situation she is in. I think people need to stop talking so much about her, making speculations and assumptions and just let her live her life and raise her daughter. Let’s just move on and let her live in peace.
July 12th, 2008 at 5:18 pm
From my vantage point it looks like Jamie-Lynn is doing pretty well despite her mother.
July 12th, 2008 at 5:19 pm
Whether or not teenagers should or should not be having sex is not the issue. Obviously this one did. Did she use protection? Maybe. Maybe not. But did you ever do anything careless or stupid when you were 16 and full of hormones? This girl made a mistake, but it appears that she is being very mature, stepping up and handling it. I think she needs to be left alone, and that people need to stop judging her for an action she can’t change, and just wish her good luck in raising her child.
July 12th, 2008 at 5:22 pm
I have noticed that a lot of “comments” are making it onto this site lately. I guess the “rule” can be tweaked when the CBB writers and editor wants it to be. Whatever.
About JL…I think it is great that she did the best thing for HER. She made a grown up decision and is moving on. If she had gotten an abortion, then everyone would be going off on her..she can’t win. I feel sorry for her.
July 12th, 2008 at 5:30 pm
i wish jamie lynn all the best with her baby girl, and i think it’s great that she’s surrounded by so much positivity!
July 12th, 2008 at 5:42 pm
Yes, protection is never 100% and whatever happened is done, but it may be easier to take the option that Jamie Lynne “Move on and live in peace” seriously if the media and the Spears family would stop continuously publicizing information about the baby and Jamie’s story. While Jamie might have had a relatively effortless labor, and even though she’s deliriously happy, wise for her age, etc., everything that’s being published in the media has been positive, when the reality of the situation for many young pregnant girls is quite the opposite. It just troubles me how gloriously the media is portraying this pregnancy.
I’m not saying that Jamie Lynne isn’t mature enough to be a mother; for all I know she’s a better mom than some women at 30. I’m just a little disappointed at the way the media has portrayed a bit of a facade of teenage pregnancy.
July 12th, 2008 at 6:03 pm
I wonder how many of you have 12 year old daughters who watch the TV show this little girl is on and have to answer questions about why she decided to have a BABY when she is just a kid? How are you answering that? Do you tell your daughters that she is mature for her age and responsible, or do you give your daughters a dose of truth? I think many of you live in some fantasyland where everything works out great for everyone. I can’t believe the positive spin the media is putting on this, and how many of you are falling for it.
This poor little girl is going to miss out on so much, and so are all the other little girls in the world who will look at her – and look at women like you who support this CRAZINESS – and think it’s okay to oopsie forget the condom or have the guy pull out or whatever other excuse and end up pregnant. Nobody gets pregnant on the pill and with a condom unless they WANT to, and anyone with half a brain knows that.
I am sure with the money this family has, that the children (the mom and the baby in this case) will have all the material posessions they could ever want. I’m sure they will both be loved. The question is… would you really want your daughter in the same position?
July 12th, 2008 at 6:19 pm
I think it’s great how jamie lynn has handled becoming a mom at such a young age, but I don’t agree with how she’s advertising her baby. Like being on the magazine cover….it’s basically just sending a message to teens that are pregnant or thinking of getting pregnant like “Hey! look at me! I had a baby at such a young age and everything worked out great for me! I’m on a magazine cover!”….everything ever said about her pregnancy has been good things…you will never hear about jamie lynn struggling. And im sure she isn’t….but that isn’t the case for most teen moms. I think jamie lynn should have just skipped the cover …it doesn’t send a good message to anyone, espcially her young nick fans.
July 12th, 2008 at 6:24 pm
Ugh, I am SO sick of how everytime there is a post about Jamie Lynn the issue of her age has to be talked about. Yes she was a pregnant teen and now a teen Mom, we all know that. It’s a dead horse… quit beating it. I’m relieved to see the comments from people that have moved on from that and post comments about the baby or just kind things. It’s enough of the age issue.
Anyway, what jumped out at me was the Me-Maw name. That’s what our son called his Grandma’s when he was a baby. We have no idea how he came up with that because no one around us uses Me-Maw. Pretty funny to read it’s common in the South. He’s 5 and a half and we still talk and smile about when he was little and called his Grandmas Me-Maw so that was cute to read.
July 12th, 2008 at 6:39 pm
Betty, you hit the nail on the head in her first paragraph.
July 12th, 2008 at 6:40 pm
Hea–
Granted, no birth control is 100%, but most BC is 99% ONLY when used correctly. Of course I don’t know your friends and maybe they are in the remaining 1% of the population who used it correctly, but like the vast majority of every other birth control failure…there is a good chance that human error is the reason for your friends’ pregnancies. Also, my comments made it to the page because there is nothing inflammatory about them. Disagreeing with a viewpoint doesn’t make it inflammatory, and I never said anything about Jamie Lynn not being a mature person. I don’t need or expect everyone to agree with me, and luckily the CBB moderators recognize that everyone has a right to their opinion as long as it is expressed within the guideline of the site.
Kelly–
You’re putting words in my mouth. In fact, I clearly stated that I was not trying to start a debate about the morality of teenage sex vs. abstinence. No one’s trying to push that kind of rhetoric down your throat, and even if they tried no one is forced to read the comments on the site. I am definitely open to talking to people who don’t agree with me but I can only speak for myself when I say that. Also, I’m not talking about 17 year olds in other countries, who live in extremely different circumstances than in the US and often don’t have the access to birth control/education/opportunities that our teens do. I think it’s great that Jamie Lynn is taking responsibility and I’ve never state d otherwise. I just don’t agree with Lynne Spears’ sentiment that her daughter is wise when I think you would be hard pressed to find many struggling American teenage mothers who would classify their unplanned pregnancies as wise–blessings in disguise and gifts from God, absolutely. But it’s not a sweeping generalization to say that most (not all, most) 16 year olds don’t have the financial or emotional readiness to be mothers, and that’s not their fault! A 16 year old is still a child.
One more thing–Hea, I don’t see how you can equate a 16 year old’s unplanned pregnancy to a 30 year old’s. I’ve already stated that I know there are tons of 30 year olds who are unfit moms, and plenty of great teenage mothers, BUT generally speaking a 30 year old is much better equipped financially, emotionally, and mentally to deal with the situation than a teenager. Jamie Lynn is not the norm, not just because she is rich but apparently because she is more mature and independent than your average 16 year old. Again, I am NOT dumping on her personally. What I am saying (and stand by) is the fact that while birth control is never 100% it is pretty darn close when used correctly. What I do know is that unprotected sex (I’m not talking about Jamie Lynn here, but just in general) can have a lot of consequences for adults, but teenagers have a lot more to lose when something happens.
Sorry about the novel.
July 12th, 2008 at 6:54 pm
I just think “wise” is an odd adjective to use when decribing a girl who got pregnant at 16. How it happened and whether or not she used b/c is, frankly, irrelevant.
July 12th, 2008 at 6:54 pm
I really, really do not support OK! magazine splashing this all over their cover. As many moms can tell you, they are now having to explain to their preteens why Jamie-Lynn had a baby so young, and all of the Spears’ family recent interviews is making having a baby seem like a cakewalk. For a 17-year-old with a whole lot of money, maybe it is. She doesn’t have to work, or worry about bills, or any of the other responsibilities that come with starting a family. But for the majority of teenage mothers, it isn’t so easy, and Jamie-Lynn is selling them all short by not being honest about the things that are difficult. Even mothers who planned to have children have a tough time, so I certainly don’t buy that Jamie-Lynn’s baby is the most perfect baby on earth.
July 12th, 2008 at 6:55 pm
I could only hope that if one of my teenaged daughters messed up and ended up pregnant, that they could handle themselves as seemingly well as Jamie Lynn is. Teenage pregnancy is a fact of life, it’s up to parents to explain to their children that it’s really not as glamorous as it would appear in the media, and to encourage abstinence or birth control. The media is splashing gay/lesbian relationships all over the place too, and as a parent it is my duty to explain that when my younger kids ask why those two ladies are kissing each other. Same thing goes for teenagers having babies.
Anyway, good job to Jamie Lynn….I hope she has a good life coming her way with her sweet baby girl.
July 12th, 2008 at 7:08 pm
Well, I don’t think that america’s teenagers are going to run and get pregnant after seeing Jamie Lynn with her beautiful baby on a magazine’s cover.
What people seem to forget is that is not the celebrities job to educate kids about safe sex.
She made a mistake, but that doesn’t mean that she has to hide under a rock so you don’t have to explain your kids facts of life.
Anyway, my son calls his grandmother ta-ta, I think me-ma is very cute too.
July 12th, 2008 at 7:09 pm
Betty, I don’t think you fully understand birth control and I don’t agree that it’s okay for you to attack Jamie Lynn and other women who have had unplanned pregnancies. What’s the point of attacking Jamie Lynn? Can we just have one post about her without people attacking her and other teen mothers
July 12th, 2008 at 7:25 pm
I was really hoping Lynne Spears would be the wise one here and speak up about the TRUE side of being a teenage mother. What a breath of fresh air it would be to hear her say (something even as simple as)…It has definitely been a huge change for her, but she is also very happy. Why is it so hard for these people to take off their rose colored glasses?
July 12th, 2008 at 7:31 pm
I think this is down right horrible. I was with my triplet daughters and 18- month old son ((who watch Zoey 101)) out shopping the other day and we came ready to check out when Elaine pointed to the magazine rack “Mommy” she asked “Is that her sister?”. I laughed and tried to answer it as best as I could. But what was I supposed to say? That it was an “accident” and that “everything turned out right for her” so in 11 more years when your 16, it’ll be okay for you to get pregnant too? Hmmm…. It sure would be nice to be able to have all that money to raise a kid with.
July 12th, 2008 at 7:45 pm
Hea:
I’m not buying your argument one bit.
A ‘wise’ 16-year-old girl does not have sex.
Period.
A ’street-smart’ 16-year-old girl, if she has sex, doesn’t have it with someone who could easily be charged with statutory rape.
Taking the pill AND using a condom, etc, and still getting pregnant? … the whole idea just doesn’t wash.
I’m surprised CBB is allowing this thread to continue… usually any criticism of celebs here gets dumped. Just my experience.
July 12th, 2008 at 7:46 pm
It’s too early to tell if she is wise for her age and what kind of mom she will be, her child is barely a month. Give it time, it’s way too new now. I wouldn’t say she is being private though, selling your 2 week old baby pics for money, is not exactly staying out of the spotlight. I don’t think it’s wise at all to get pregnant at 16 and have a baby at 17, but that’s my opinion and I don’t have much to say about the situation, just good luck to her
July 12th, 2008 at 8:23 pm
Erica, the comment “being wise” doesnt apply to her getting pregnant so young, but how she dealt with it and how responsible she got with her life and baby once it already happened
July 12th, 2008 at 8:23 pm
Jaime Lynn does seem wise for her age, even though she got pregnant it doesn’t make her stupid. My mother used BC and the sponge and had me, used a condom and had my little brother Andrew, used BC AND a condom and had my little brother Ryan… Birth control is not infallible and I think it’s wrong to demean Jamie Lynn for getting pregnant, how do we know she wasn’t on BC or used a condom?
I am just happy she is taking this curve ball in life with maturity and taking responsibility for the life she created. That’s all anyone can ask for.
July 12th, 2008 at 8:28 pm
Betty, you got couple of very good points. To your question, if i would want to have a daughter in that situation, yes, I would. After struggling with infertility for years, if id be 17 again, and knowing what i know today and what i went through to get pregnant, I would be over the moon that im finally having a baby.
As for my own daughter, i would rather see her pregnant young, then gooing through same i went when she’s older. I for one dont hope my daughter will get pregnant as soon as 16 (knock knock), but should that happen we will be extremely supportive and never tell her once anything which would put her into awkward position not feeling the support and love from her parents, cause every life is so precious whether at 16 or 46. Its not ideal, but its still precious
July 12th, 2008 at 8:42 pm
Amelia, i dont think that having a baby is horrible, even if the mom is 17. Having baby is a very precious experience, and the mother with a child is a very blessed woman.
Instead of stating that someone had a baby is horrible, we may want to turn towards the magazines, who put it on the front page and then the stores who sell these mags. Surely they dont expect babies whose mothers do not know how to deal with the events of the world, not entering the stores and not seeing the mags?
July 12th, 2008 at 8:52 pm
I think Jamie Lynn has handled this situation perfectly. I had a baby at 17, and I’m 22 now. My son will be entering kindergarten in August, and I will tell you right now that my life has been nothing short of perfect. He wasn’t planned, but if I could go back, I wouldn’t do anything different.
July 12th, 2008 at 9:00 pm
P.S. To everyone talk about how they need to now explain to their daughters about what Jamie Lynn did – WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN? You should have been dicussing this long before. Jamie Lynn is human.
When I had my son at 17, my aunt had to “explain” to my 13 year old “angel” (as everyone used to call her) female cousin about how “bad”, and “irresponsible” I was. Guess what? She’s 18 now (WITH NO BABIES), but a drug addict, in jail, and raging teen alcoholic. I’m 22, a teacher to children with Autism, and I have my ducks in a row, and so does my 5 year old son who is already reading at a 1st grade level (and not even in kinder yet!) Maybe the problem isn’t teen pregnancy. You should explain to your daughters AND sons the dangers of ALL of the above. Every situation is different, and kids aren’t living in your generation! They’re living in a world where they’re exposed to everything no matter where they go except your lives isn’t a show for everyone to see. When something bad happens to you, the whole world doesn’t see it.
July 12th, 2008 at 9:08 pm
Nani I 100% agree with your post.
Why don’t parents parent their children and not whine about the media portraying something this way or that way? Yes, kids see and hear things on tv and magazines etc. But as parents it’s OUR job to teach them not the media. If you want to complain about Jamie Lynn not being responsible, look in the mirror and take responsiblity for your own family.
July 12th, 2008 at 9:08 pm
Lisa, would you rather that Lynne come out and say she’s unhappy with her daughter?
July 12th, 2008 at 9:41 pm
Will everyone just stop catting at eachother for once. This is supposed to a nice site, but now I don’t even want to be on here because of all this stuff going on. Why don’t y’all just quit for once, and be happy for Jamie Lynn? Everyone here goes on about names, genders,and good/bad parenting. Get it in your head, we probably don’t know these people so why should we judge people based on their decisions reported in the media. not to be too chris crocker here, but wtf??? Why can’t we be peaceful? And I bet my comment will be deleted because I”m actually speaking common sense here, this is crazy!!! And go, Renee btw. . . you women need to stop this because it is DISGUSTING to read.
July 12th, 2008 at 9:43 pm
Oh SERIOUSLY Amelia!! Your 5 YEAR OLD understands and knows all about pregnancy and birth control and sex?! What the hell ever! Get a life!
July 12th, 2008 at 10:04 pm
I could careless about how OLD or YOUNG someone is when they have a baby. What I do NOT like is that JLS is on the front cover of a magazine claiming to want to give her child a “normal” life and then she goes and does and interview and photo shoot? How is that normal? I get that you want to give the media what they want so they’ll leave you alone but lets face the facts here, they won’t leave you alone!! No matter where you go or how hard you try to give this baby a normal life it’s not going to be 100% normal! And paparazzi will be there whether you want them to be or not!
I don’t agree with the Spears family or OK magazine for putting her on the cover with the phrase “being a mom is the most amazing thing in the world!” for all other young teenagers to see!! I feel strongly about trying to discourage teens from thinking that babies are peaches and cream. Of course kids will have sex but why do we keep needing things like this to be exploited all over the magazines just to advertise how awesome it is to be 17 and have a child. And yes it IS WHAT IT IS at this point but I don’t think it needs to be a front cover news story and that’s my opinion and I’m sticking to it!!
That being said I do wish her the best – infact I wish the whole family the best including Britney. Maybe she should take hints from her little sister and get her behind out of hollywood and raise her kids too!!
July 12th, 2008 at 10:51 pm
I’m completely sick of hearing about Jamie Lynn Spears and her baby. I do not agree that this is material that should be posted around everywhere, whether she’s a celeb or not, because it is sending such a wrong image to our children. I am an elementary school teacher, and the little girls are so confused about this situation, and the fact that it’s out in all of the magazines in the grocery stores where these girls can see it is causing these little girls to have to learn about things they are just too young to have to know about. It’s so incredibly sad, and I feel so sad for that baby and for Jamie Lynn and for all of the girls who look up to her and now have to figure out what to do with that in their young minds.
July 12th, 2008 at 11:03 pm
My 16 year old cousin just had a baby in March and she was in no way influenced by Jamie Lynn to have her baby…Has anyone ever thought that your own kids have their own minds? They are more influenced by their own friends and boyfriends than any celebrity. And people on this board also seem to forget that Jamie Lynn had signed a deal with the magazine for the initial interview, baby shower, first pics and an update.She is fulfilling her contract, not offering her daughter to the media every given day. Since baby Maddie is so new I’m sure Jamie Lynn and Casey are just in a day dream phase and soon will realize the more stressed out side of parenting just like any parents, teens or not. Give them a break.
July 12th, 2008 at 11:42 pm
I am so tired of people using Jamie Lynn as the reason why teenage girls are going to get pregnant. Just like I am so tired of seeing people complain about her being on covers of magazines JUST because she is a teenage mother. Guess what? YOU are the parent of your child. NOT Jamie Lynn and not anyone else. That is a really nice way to take all of the responsibility off of your own shoulders so that if something like that we’re to happen you can say “Oh, I had no control over this. My daughter had Jamie Lynn as a role model. I could talk until I’m blue in the face and she would’ve only paid attention to Jamie Lynn.”
I babysit for a mother who has three daughters, 13, 11, 6, and the 13 year old has seen these magazine covers, she knows about Jamie Lynn and you know what she has to say about it? “I’m not having sex until I’m older and I know I could handle a baby.” She’s not look at them going “Oh, look how cute. I should have one too!” Why does everyone automatically assume that girls are going to see this and want to have a baby because Jamie Lynn did? The six year old watches Zoey 101 and she could care LESS that Jamie Lynn has had a baby. The topic of Jamie Lynn having been pregnant and having had a baby doesn’t come up every time the show comes on.
This is what’s wrong with this world today. People blame others instead of taking some responsibility because it’s easier. Stand up, take some responsibility, have the sex talk with your children and let them know the TRUTH about everything. That the only fool proof method of NOT getting pregnant is abstinence. Let them know that even if they protect themselves, it’s a risk every time they have sex. Teach them that just because other people are having sex doesn’t mean they have to do it too.
Trust me, I understand peer pressure and I understand that it’s not always easy to tell your child that because the majority is doing it, they don’t have to do it. My mother is a middle school teacher and I am a twenty-two year old college student who is PROUD to be waiting for true love and I have to stand up for my decision every time I meet a new boy or the topic comes up in conversation. People try and make me feel bad for my decision, but you know what? I have a VERY open relationship with my parents and we talk about everything and I’ve weighed all my options carefully and I know this is the best decision for me.
Sorry to get so personal, but I want people to know where I am coming from. I know how tough it is to make that decision, but with a good support system and a strong sense of self worth, it IS possible. Talk to your children and START taking some responsibility. Also? Have some faith in your children. Don’t just assume that because someone they watch on TV and see on magazine covers did it means they’re going to do it too. Sure, some kids might. I’m not naive to that fact at all. But kids out there were doing it long before Jamie Lynn’s pregnancy happened and they’ll be doing it long after. Stop using it as a scapegoat.
Sorry for the novel, but I guess I felt passionate about this tonight, haha.
July 13th, 2008 at 12:07 am
This poor girl, she can’t win for losing! She could of easily just gotten an abortion without anyone ever knowing but instead she puts her entire future/career in jeopardy for her baby and people are still upset..
July 13th, 2008 at 12:30 am
Nani – I think you may underestimate how impressionable young girls are. I believe teen pregnancy has become an epidemic in Gloucter, MA, because it has become trivialized and glamorized. The media has become a strong weapon against parents trying to rear morally responsible children.
To be honest,I am very dissappointed in Lynne Spears. I think she feeding the media frenzy around Jaime Lynne. I hope Jamie Lynne is a good mom, but at this point, Lynne Spears’ opinions and judgements are questionable at most.
July 13th, 2008 at 1:30 am
Betty, my sister used the pill correctly and she had an unplanned pregnancy. She didn’t want kids at all, but she had them (while using the pill correctly); and she is an amazing mother and loves them very much now.
July 13th, 2008 at 1:37 am
I agree with the fact that OK! shouldn’t glamourize teen pregnancy. They should do a story like YM did a few years ago, with average teen girls with babies. However, I do give Jamie Lynn major props for having her head on straight, and doing what’s best for her baby.
July 13th, 2008 at 1:49 am
Amelia, so it’s Jamie Lynn’s responsibilty to set a good example for your daughters?
True, she should’ve thought more carefully about her young, impressionable fans looking up to her, but she’s only human. Humans make mistakes, but she is trying to make the best of things, and do what’s right for her family. You sound like you’re kind of mad at her for having money.
Betty, although there is truth in your first paragraph, your second one is very ignorant and a little judgemental.
July 13th, 2008 at 2:14 am
LOL @ Amelia with “is that her sister”. That had to be an interesting answer to come up with.
Most of us agree that an unmarried teen girl having a baby isn’t the ideal. That said, it also isn’t the worst thing that could have happened to her. Anyone having sex is at risk of pregnancy. Obviously, she was having sex and baby was is a consequence.
I don’t think there is anything wrong with her celebrating her baby. I think it’s great she continued her pregnancy, delivered a healthy baby girl, and is trying her best to raise her. When things like this happen, all you can do is make the best of them.
She could turn out to be a very good mother. More years on earth doesn’t make someone a better mother. Honestly, when i hear reports of some of our much older celebs “looking to get pregnant” by the next random boyfriend of the month, I cringe. Despite their ages, some of them seem to be taking parenting as seriously some would say a teen would.
July 13th, 2008 at 2:38 am
People make mistakes, all of us do.
No one is perfect!
Sure she is young but she stepped up to the plate & handled her business.
Would you be happy if she had had an abortion?
I, for one am happy for her.
People hate on her because she is Britney’s sister & because she is a celebrity.
No one cares about the millions of other teens having babies.
Give the girl a chance.
If she screws it up then you will have something to fuss about.
So far she has showed that she is accepting her responsibility.
Enough already!
July 13th, 2008 at 3:19 am
Cait- “Guess what? YOU are the parent of your child.”
Yes. A thousand times yes.
July 13th, 2008 at 3:30 am
Another thing to add to this post is that Jamie Lynn isn’t like other teenage mothers. She has been working on a hit TV show for many years therefore making her financially independent and secure. Every person has a different story and different circumstances.
July 13th, 2008 at 8:11 am
I’m 24 yrs old and got pregnant with my first child 2 weeks before my 16th birthday.I got married at 17 and had my second child at 18.
With that said,I’m going to say that yes people thought I was crazy and so immature for having kids so young but you know what,I made the decision to have sex and I made the decision to be responsible enough to take care of my children.I’m not going to say this was oh so easy because this was really hard to go through.My first child was born with complications,let me tell you that it’s really scary to be so young and have to go through something like this.You have no idea what you’re doing most of the time,you think you do but you’re never sure it’s the right thing you’re doing or not.You never plan on having a child with disabilities but it happens and let me tell you my husband and I definitely had to grow up really fast because there was this tiny baby that needed us more than anything.We went to the bi-monthly doctor appointments,the weekly physiotherapy sessions and later on we had speech therapy sessions added to all that.We found out last year that he has ADHD and I’m sure there are parents out there with kids with ADHD that will tell you how hard it is to go through.
I had the easiest delivery with my second child.She slept through the night,didn’t have a lot of colics,teething was never a huge deal with her.She was fluent in english and french by the time she was 3.Totally different experience than with my first child.
After my daughter was born my husband and I wanted other children.We had a lot on our plate with our son but we were up for having the experience again.The big man up there had other plans for us and I suffered through 3 miscarriages in a year and a half span.My body couldn’t handle carrying another child.Your body is not ready to carry a child at 16 but nobody’s going to tell you that.
What I really wanted to say is that I’ve been reading this board for a long time and just now decided to post because it breaks my heart to read some of the comments.Yes some people are young and should make better decisions but don’t bash every teenager out there because a lot of us do step up and take care of our children.Yes it’s so much harder than if we had been say 26 yrs old and were financially settled but a lot of us do get through it.Our age doesn’t mean we’re bad parents.
Being a young mother wasn’t what I had planned but in the end it’s been the best decision I could have ever made for myself.I’m proud to be a mother and my children mean the world to me.I’m not telling teenagers to go out and get pregnant because I really really do believe they should think twice about it because it’s such a life changing decision.You might think you’re ready for it but trust me you never are and you certainly don’t know what it really means to have a child.Don’t think for one second that you know how to take care of a child because even though my kids are a bit older,I’m still learning things every day.Like I said,having kids was the best decision for me but it’s not the best decision for everybody.
I know this is probably not the place to do this but I know people might start bashing for getting married too young but we’re celebrating our 7th wedding anniversary in 2 weeks and,like choosing to have kids,it was the best decision I made for myself.Not always easy but it’s working and I couldn’t be happier and yes my husband is the father of both children.Not every teenager out there is sleeping around.
July 13th, 2008 at 8:15 am
even thou iam against teenagers having babies but i think sometimes they can be great mothers!…my grandma was 14 and my grandpa was 21 when they got married and had their 1st child 1 year later!
July 13th, 2008 at 8:39 am
How do young girls even know who Jamie Lynn Spears is? No 5yo needs to watch her show. It’s a show for “tweens.” I have 5 and 6yo boys and they don’t know about any of the non-animated shows for older kids. Honestly if you’re not at least 8-10 years old, you don’t need to be watching those programs. Maybe they’re not “harmful” to young children, but they’re certainly a waste of time, and if they watch tween shows when they’re very young, those same shows will seem babyish when the’re actually tweens. Then what? On to adult fare — which has a lot of violence and sexual content.
July 13th, 2008 at 9:55 am
Suzie – That’s your opinion. In this day and age and in America or wherever you live, it may be true. Do not for a second assume that it is what’s right for ever 16 year old in this world. Sex is sex, it’s not rocket science. Humans do it. It’s a perfectly natural thing. It is not statutory rape to have sex with a 16 year old in Sweden. It’s not the same everywhere, just so you know. I think it’s horrible that people actually use the word “rape” when it comes to a sixteen year old person willingly having sex with someone she loves. It’s disrespectful to turn people into victims when they’re not.
Erica – An unplanned pregnancy is an unplanned pregnancy no matter what age. The responsibility is just as large since age is not necessarily something that makes a good parent. You talk about what teens lose… We all lose and miss out sometimes. It’s a part of life and life is what you make of it. Some things have to be postponed when you have a baby and some things you miss out on, absolutely. I do think, however, that if the young parent can put their situation into perspective, they have every chance at happiness and a good life with much joy. It does not have to be a bad bad thing.
July 13th, 2008 at 10:41 am
Of course parents should be the one’s to sit down and talk about the birds and bees with their children but let’s not be so naiive to believe that every parent does these things or that every child has this type of guidance.
My uncle called me the other day to see if I could “keep an eye” on his kids for a weekend but was telling me how well his 16 yr old was doing being left alone by herself lately (this child has been caught more then once having keg parties in her parents home). But then he told me she had a boyfriend and since meeting him she doesn’t party as much(ha)!!!! He even informed me that she may want her boyfriend to sleep over bc he has done that in the past because he doesn’t drive so rather then her being out late taking him home he just spends the night!! Then he told me that well they’re most likely having sex but hey she’s 16 what can I do?? I asked well she could get pregant and he says, “well she’s on the pill, well I think she is, I don’t know. Well if it happens it happens we’ll deal with it then!” GREAT PARENTING right?!
So to make a long story short. You may raise your child to NOT do these things or sit them down and talk to them about safe sex but the bottom line is children will do what they want despite what you preach to them not to do! I just think it’s wrong to put blame soley on parents for a child becoming pregnant. Lynn Spears isn’t parent of the year but she didn’t force JLS and Casey to go have have sex and get pregnant. JLS and Casey made an adult decision. And perhaps they did use something and it just didn’t work but for as many stories as I’m hearing on here about how many times you or your folks got pregnant using protection I’d have to quesion all these condom companies or maybe question them on whether or not they used them properly lol. And yes I’ve heard of people getting pregnant on the pill but if used properly your less likely to end up pregnant! If a 16 yr old can’t remember to take her pill perhaps she’s not responsible enough to be having sex?!
Anyways, I don’t think everyone should be coming down hard on mothers of teens who become pregnant. As I said before yes it’s your responsibility as the parent to discuss sex with your kids but it doesn’t mean they’ll listen to you. You provide the tools and your children make the choice on whether or not to use them effectively.
All my mom had to say was, “get pregnant and you can get out” (even though I know she never meant it) back then it was just enough to scare me into keeping my legs shut cause I just knew I didn’t have money to go anywhere!!
July 13th, 2008 at 10:49 am
It’s such a shame to see all the bashing that goes on. But people are entitled to their ( seemingly judgemental) opinions.
Jamie Lynn’s pregnancy never bothered me.
What really gets to me here is the debate about being a role-model. The way i see it, there is a tremendous amount of pressure on children’s television stars to be good role models. If it wasn’t Jamie Lynn or Miley Cyrus, it would be another young teenager trying to be perfect because there is, and always will be, a demand for children’s/teenager television programmes and therefore a need for a young actor who is then forced to become a role model. Somebody has to take on this hard role and face the awful criticism and hurtful comments that will occur if they somehow “fail” their role.
July 13th, 2008 at 11:48 am
Hea-True, an unplanned pregnancy is an unplanned pregnancy regardless what your age is, but the fact remains that most 16 year olds in this country are barely half-way through high school. Whether they have to make the choice to keep going, get a GED, or drop out, there are definitely bigger sacrifices a teen (who, no matter how mature, is still legally and most of the time emotionally is still a child) mother makes vs. a 30 year, who are generally better equipped to deal with the situation. Again, I am not talking about every single 30 year old or every single teenager, but how much life experience does your average 16 year old have vs. a 30 year old? I can only speak for myself but as a 22 year old who is pretty much half-way between 30 and 16 and given the choice I would most definitely prefer that an unplanned pregnancy happen at 30.
To be more on subject: I get what you are saying Bb about the pressure on child stars to be role models, but I see this as a natural consequence of their fame. I don’t think it’s so much a recent thing either; the term “teen idol” has been around for decades and right or wrong, it’s natural for kids to somewhat idolize their favorite TV stars. I 100% agree that it is first and foremost the parents’ job to raise their kids, but then again the parents of these child stars are basically signing away their own child’s privacy for huge amounts of money in return. I feel badly for JL Spears in a way b/c even though you may hear from her or Miley Cyrus how much they love what they do it was ultimately their parents who chose expose their children so publicly, for better or worse. I think it’s totally valid that a few moms here have been concerned with how they are going to explain JL Spears’ situation to their own daughters b/c it is a very complex subject IMO.
July 13th, 2008 at 11:49 am
Birth control (used correctly) and condoms: both got me my son
and yes – I am an educated 30 year old woman AND doctor.
OK Magazine: She is a proud new mommy. She has every right to show off her pride and joy. What’s done is done – now is the time to celebrate new life, not hide she and her family as if in shame.
What to tell your children: the truth. I assume all of you are planning on educating your children about sex and the risks involved. Here is your perfect example. As far as it being glamourized, remind them that Jamie-Lynne is still a “movie star.” She has money and fame and it is much easier for her. Role play with them and ask them what they would do? How they would pay/live/survive? But it’s my humble suggestion that rather than teaching them not to tolerate the lifestyles or decisions others choose, it’s best just to educate them about their own values and morals so they make good decisions for themselves.
New family: they seem to be making very wise choices and i wish them the best of luck. Maddie may be a “.10%” like my son but she is here now and she should be celebrated. Enjoy this little miracle.
July 13th, 2008 at 12:12 pm
Yeah I totally agree that she shouldn’t have gotten pregnant at 16 and had a baby at 17, then posed on a magazine cover creating sticky situations like what Amelia described, but at least Jamie Lynne’s trying to handle the situation as best she can.
Still though barring emotional issues like her sister has had, I can definitely see Jamie Lynn as a soccar mom someday, shuttling the kids around and so forth.
What I hope doesn’t happen though, is that Lynne pushes Jamie Lynne into entering Maddie into Tiny Tots Beauty & Talent Pageants (a’la JonBenet) to make up for the potential revenue Jamie Lynne lost in her own career as a child actor after becoming a teenage mom. (I don’t want to have to see Baby Maddie wearing a sequined leotard and too much hair & makeup, singing & tap dancing to “Baby One More Time..” at the age of 2, just to win Me-Ma $10K and a brand new car!)
July 13th, 2008 at 12:26 pm
Erica – Well, in Sweden we don’t exactly have what you call GED but something similar and it is very much a possibilty that “drop outs” can go back to school when they’re ready and get their degree. What they miss is what, the prom and some hang outs with friends and going off to college together with their peers? Not all people want that to start with. I just don’t like the fact that people treat teen pregnancies like it’s some sort of plague. It’s not ideal here either, I agree, but when people step up to the plate and take control of their lives and take responsibility, I say good for them and good luck.
July 13th, 2008 at 12:32 pm
Uggh I don’t understand why her age is still an issue, seeing as nobody on here is having to raise and pay for her child. With all these perfect parents on CBB, this of COURSE is not an issue that you will have to worry about anyway; becuase you are the perfect parent with all the perfect answers/solutions for your perfect child/ren.
Being that you are so perfect and in the place to judge a minor’s actions; I know you have more worthy causes to pertain to with your perfect insights. I don’t even see why you are in this post, I am pretty sure you could be spending this time with your perfect child/ren through heredity, or figuiring out if there is anyway you can perfect someone that you know personally life, instead of giving opposing feedback on a choice of someone you will never meet?
Then again what the heck do I know, I am not a perfect mother, who have made all the perfect choices, and have all the perfect answers for EVERYONES lives, with perfect children.
July 13th, 2008 at 1:24 pm
I can’t believe that no one here has mentioned the fact of Jamie Lynne’s parents. Look how she and her sister were raised! Look at Britney! They have 2 daughters – the first they had in a tiny little school girl uniform when she was 14 dancing around in music videos. Now she can’t even have custody of her kids because she’s so messed up on drugs and alchohol. The 2nd they had on TV at an even earlier age. Now she’s 17 with a baby. Does anyone on here realize that maybe it’s Lynne Spears that needs a talking to? “Soccer mom like I was”?!?! Somehow I don’t think Lynne spears was a car pooling soccer mom. She was a mom that exposed her 2 young girls to the media in their formative years and now we’re all wondering how this happened? Look at Jamie Lynne and Britney’s parents and the way they were raised! That’s how it happened. Thankfully it looks as though Jamie Lynne is making the best of her situation though and right now looks like she has a good head on her shoulders. Hopefully Britney will change for her sons too.
July 13th, 2008 at 1:36 pm
All in all anyone having sex can get pregnant even using birth control. Ideally it is better to for girls to enjoy their youth without the responsibility of caring for babies. However, I am much more chagrined by the 60 and 70 year old women having babies. Hope this does not become fashionable.
July 13th, 2008 at 1:44 pm
Loren – What about the boys?
July 13th, 2008 at 2:13 pm
There is no such thing as a ‘wise’ and ‘mature’ 16 year old. Sorry, but that’s the way it works. 16 year olds are still children, plain and simple.
July 13th, 2008 at 2:51 pm
Hea–I agree with you, that not every girl may want to go to prom or college etc., but I think having a baby changes one’s life so profoundly already that being a teenager makes it much harder. When you think about those teen moms whose families and/or partners are not supportive, my heart aches for them because it’s hard enough being an adult single mom, but as a teenager it’s must seem like every day is literally an uphill battle. Maybe I should rephrase what I said earlier: I think there are a lot of wise 16 year old mothers, but that’s a title they’ve had to earn over time (like any other mom). Jamie Lynn has been a mother for less than a month, and yes, I do think it’s wrong at this point for Lynne to talk about how wise Jamie Lynn is.
July 13th, 2008 at 3:45 pm
It’s nice to see and hear how support Lynne is of Jamie Lynn. And it’s possible to be wise and still be human at the same time. Being wise doesn’t equal perfect. She had a baby at a young age…that doesn’t take anything away from her intellectually.
July 13th, 2008 at 3:47 pm
Anais, yes there is. You sound like an adult who dislikes teens. I knew several sixteen year olds who were mature for their age when I was is high school. So, until you have gotten to know every sixteen year old in the entire world, you shouldn’t make a comment against all of them for just how a few teens are.
Sorry if this comes off like I’m attacking you, but it really bugs me when people are judged based on just how a few others the same age (or anything) as them are.
July 13th, 2008 at 3:54 pm
She could be wise in other ways than just as a mother. She’s been working and participating in an adult world since, what, before she started to walk?
I got very very ill when I was 15. I lost a couple of my teenage years but in retrospect, I didn’t miss *that* much. I missed out on being naive and having the *right* to be naive, that wasn’t so bad. And I missed out on time with my friends and being care free. But life is different for all of us. Everything life throws your way you process and you grow from the experiences. Well, most people do anyway.
July 13th, 2008 at 3:56 pm
I hope this child will grow up and have a decent life, but lets look at it, Jamie Lynne is still a kid herself. If she was so wise beyond her years, she wouldn’t have gotten pregnant.
I just hope she doesn’t make the same mistakes as her sister.
GB
July 13th, 2008 at 5:37 pm
I guess every child is different, thus will be influenced by different things in life. Some kids may see that teen pregnancy is cool because of all the media hype but others will not.
When I was a kid I was rarely influenced by anything in the media except for the focus on being skinny. Where other kids probably weren’t so focused on that.
The kids that did get pregnant while in high school were accepted but kept most of us on the straight and narrow – it was never glamorized. Plus both of my parents told me that I would have to get out and find a job if I ever got pregnant or decided not to go to college – that scared me enough to keep me in line! LOL!
I find it strange that so many young girls even KNEW Jamie Lynn was even pregnant. When I decided to “have the talk” with my 12 yr old daughter – and this was a few weeks after the world found out that JLS was expecting – she looked at me in surprise. She had absolutely no idea about it. My daughter doesn’t read teen magazines, she doesn’t watch too much of the news, as a matter of fact she knows nothing of the personal lives of the stars she watches on Nickelodeon or the Disney Channel. She’s only interested in characters on the show and that’s about it. Most of the time she may hear something from a few of her friends as they have more interest in the “gossipy” part of the stars lives, but overall they are characters on a show. Heck she didn’t even know that Brittney and JLS were even related until I told her a couple of years ago. And even since I told her about JLS pregnancy not ONCE has she asked if she’s had the baby or not – she just doesn’t care. She’s more into when is her mama going to give her a little sister! LOL!
So I think it depends on the kid, how we raise our kids, what we let them watch/read, their friends, and outside influences….too many factors to say 100% for sure that kids will glamorize teen pregnancy just because their favorite teen star became pregnant, loved pregnancy, and is enjoying motherhood. We just can’t put all the blame there…okay I’m off my soapbox now but I had to get it out!
July 13th, 2008 at 6:05 pm
What about them? I thought the discussion was teenage girls(Jaime Lynn) and pregnancy. I know it takes 2 but if men had them then we would wouldn’t be here discussing it. The guys would be and they have a history of having children to a very late age.lol I am a woman, almost a senior so I do hope no more women cooperate by having babies at 70. Even when a teenage boy impregnates a girl, he does not alter his life and health nor risk it by the deed. It is very important to recognize that men still don’t get pregnant. Even when you have a supportive partner, it is your life on the line. Men don’t get diabetes from pregnancy or stretch marks or baby weight. So even when they step up to the plate their carefree youth is not as heavily impacted. Today is my grand daughters 10th birthday and yeah I hope she has a fun while a teenager still I assure you she will have a baby as teen before I have one as a senior citizen. lol When my DIL was having her I was very anxious for her life, she had the c section. My son is a good dad but he did not have heal from a c section. I am from a time when pregnancy and childbirth was not as safe and I have yet to hear of a man dying during childbirth, though we rarely hear it women still do.
July 13th, 2008 at 8:41 pm
This is to “Nani” who said:::
“Well, I don’t think that america’s teenagers are going to run and get pregnant after seeing Jamie Lynn with her beautiful baby on a magazine’s cover.”
I’d like to respond with an article I read on MTV.com about a group of girls (about
in a Massachusetts high school who made a pact to get pregnant after seeing Jamie Lynn Spears do it. One girl got pregnant by a homeless 24 year old man….
I really don’t think she should be on the cover of OK magazine. It only promotes teen pregnancy. I myself am a single mother, though I had my daughter at 25 it was a struggle for the both of us. I never went on food stamps or welfare, but I break even every month. Having a baby is difficult enough. I don’t think teen mothers realize this after seeing Jamie Lynn look so effortless. It’s not all dress up. Children are not like dolls. You can just put them on the shelf when you get tired…. JEEZ.
July 13th, 2008 at 8:49 pm
B, that is wrong information. The group in Mass had nothing to do with JLS. It was more about bad parenting and being unaware of what’s going on with your teen.
July 13th, 2008 at 8:53 pm
I’m not buying all the people who say that they used birth control and condoms and got pregnant.
I used to have sex several times a day everyday for several years. I used condoms EVERYTIME. The ONLY time i got pregnant was when we didn’t use condoms and he didn’t pull out…
CONDOMS work.
July 13th, 2008 at 10:38 pm
I also don’t know anyone that got pregnant while on birth control (either condom or pill). It is more likely they didn’t use any and that doesn’t make her wise in my book.
Howover, I do not agree with everyone looking to her for being a roll model to your children. It’s not so hard to tell your child what happened and that it is not okay. She has a right to be happy with her daughter.
Some of the group that made a pact to have babies, had their babies before Jamie Lynn did, so how could it be her fault anyway?
July 13th, 2008 at 11:30 pm
avehan- Actually, Britney has bi-polar disorder from what I’ve heard. Also, she has actually been pretty “clean” for awhile now from what I’ve read. She still smokes (unfournately) but she no longer drinks or does drugs. So to say that she is “so messed up on drugs and alchohol,” is unfair and untrue. She is “messed up” because of bi-polar disorder, and even that has improved (I read in People magazine that she is taking medication for it).
As for Jamie Lynn, I don’t blame her for showing off her baby. First of all, what parent doesn’t want to show off their baby? And, more importantly, she most likely did the photoshoot to stop the paps from hounding her for the “first shot”. Of course the paps will always follow her to a certain extent, but by doing the photoshoot, she eliminated the paps’ need to get the “first shot” and hopefully got them off her back enough to let her and Casey enjoy Maddie in peace for awhile.
I am also actually very proud of Jamie Lynn. Yes, she made a mistake (although I hate referring to any child that way, regardless of the situation in which they came into the world!), but she certainly appears to have her head on straight. Oh, and I believe Lynne Spears could have been a “soccer mom”. Maybe not so much with Britney and Jamie Lynn…But Britney and Jamie Lynn DO have an older brother, Bryan, who hasn’t been in the spotlight like they have. Perhaps she was a “soccer mom” to him?
July 14th, 2008 at 1:01 am
“B”, I have to jump in here and correct you on the absolutes you seem to have about birth control. The ONLY, and I mean ONLY, sure fire way not to get pregnant is abstinence. I haven’t read any comments here that say condoms don’t work, just that they fail, and they DO. Just because it hasn’t happened to you doesn’t mean it’s the same for everyone else. According to the Mayo Clinic TWO out of every 100 condoms used correctly will break. That puts the effectiveness at only 98%. What does that mean? You landed in the 98th percentile and the women here who have recounted getting pregnant anyway are in the other 2%. Condoms work, but they ARE NOT FOOLPROOF. It drove me nuts volunteering at planned parenthoods having to listen to misinformed young men wail that babies “couldn’t be mine!” because they used a condom. They break and they fail in the BEST of circumstances, even more so in the worst. That’s the reality.
As for hormonal birth control, it’s effectiveness can range anywhere from 96%-99%. That leaves a 1% to 4% chance for women taking it CORRECTLY to STILL get pregnant. It’s even lower when it’s not being taken as prescribed and even lower still when being taken as prescribed but mixed with other prescription or OTC (over the counter) drugs. A woman can take her bc correctly and one medical malady, no matter how innocuous, paired with simple antibiotics can drop the effectiveness down to 82-87%. That’s a HUGE margin for pregnancy. Again, NOT fool proof.
As far as Jamie Lynn goes, no one knows if she did use protection or not. For all we know she and Casey could have been gambling for months and finally lost, or they could have been as safe as a baby in a rear facing carseat for months and finally lost. The fact of the matter is they made ONE mistake, and out of that came a child who is obviously very loved and very wanted. It doesn’t make Jamie Lynn dumb, and it doesn’t make her careless. Wisdom is defined as ACCUMULATED knowledge or enlightment, as well as being practical and sensible. I’d say Jamie Lynn is has accumulated quite a bit of enlightment in the past 7 or so months and will only continue to do so. It can’t have been easy watching a career she worked hard for taking a big hit, going through an unexpected pregnancy at 16, having half the American population condemn her and her unborn child for a mistake while toeing the line between mourning her child’s birth and taking absolute glee in the situation. Like it or not, she’s had to do alot of growing up in the past few months. What she has learned and the young woman it has made her does classify as wisdom, and for Maddie’s sake, we can only hope it, and she, grows.
July 14th, 2008 at 4:09 am
b, that is NOT true regarding the girls in Massachusetts making that pregnancy pact after hearing about Jamie Lynn Spears.
Sadly, it is true about the sex with a homeless man to get pregnant. It was older boyfriends (by a few years) who have since graduated the high school, boyfriends in the school still and the homeless man. The local news and various other people involved (witnesses and officials) have said it is girls with some issues and parents who are not paying attention.
July 14th, 2008 at 6:16 am
I forgot to add that I love that they use Me-ma for grandma as my daughter called my mom Me-ma too. I always thought it was so cute and different. If I’m lucky to ever be a grandparent, I want to be Mimi so as not to steal the honor of being Me-ma from my own mother who loved her only grandchild more than anything in the world!
July 14th, 2008 at 8:37 am
celebbabylover-
Britney doesn’t have custody of her children for a reason. If she was clean they’d be living with her. A judge would always err on the side of the mother of the children. Instead they’re being raised by nannies. I don’t think you would get your children taken away simply by having bipolar disorder. There’s probably plenty of healthy kids out there who are being raised by a parent with bipolar disorder.
My whole point was to look at Jamie Lynn and Britney’s abnormal upbringing. They were exposed way too early, way too much to the media by their parents. Now they’re paying the price for their parents willingness to parade their beautiful girls around to make money.
July 14th, 2008 at 8:48 am
“Even when a teenage boy impregnates a girl, he does not alter his life and health nor risk it by the deed.”
I disagree with this comment….. This is not the “60’s”…… Sorry to say… I hope the boys are getting as much education about unwanted pregnancies as girls. If the girl decides to have the child even if the male counterpart requests an abortion they have to live with that females choice. The men are not stuck with the child but if they are put in the system (child support) it affects them greatly. All the way up to jail time and felonies. How many 16 year old boys are financially stable, same arguments for the girls. The girl does not face jail time if she is unable to provide….she recieves assistance (welfare). SO….it does affect boys just in different ways. They need to be educated and talked about as well!!
July 14th, 2008 at 9:35 am
B
I have to disagree with you about the pact, I read the article too, not on MTV though, and it only mentions Jamie as an example (along with the movie Juno) of teen pregnacy.
As Jen said:
“Those are girls with some issues and parents who are not paying attention”
J-lin
I know how impressionable girls are, I have two sisters 12, and 16 and I was that age too, and they are more preassured by their friends that for the media. For that you have, as a parent or sister talk to them facts of life, so they can have a strong character and make the right choise when time comes.
sorry about my english, not my native language
July 14th, 2008 at 10:25 am
WISE FOR HER AGE? IS THIS WOMAN INSANE OR WHAT? IF JAMIE LYNN WAS WISE FOR HER AGE, SHE WOULDN’T HAVE COME OUT PREGNANT IN THE FIRST PLACE!!! WHY ARE THE MOMS OF THESE CELEBRITIES ALWAYS TRYING TO SUGAR-COAT AND MAKE IT LOOK LIKE IT’S ALRIGHT TO xxxx-UP??
July 14th, 2008 at 11:21 am
I have yet to hear of a man dying during childbirth.
or does not deny (Maury Povich “You are not the father”) The only thing that has changed since the 60’s is that women have the right to have sex without society saying anything;(too many still calling women names though) when things go wrong it’s still put the blame on Mame. What is sad is, its not the 60’s and women are looking to men for decisions about themselves. Women still blaming the girls and even their mothers. Read this thread 
I also don’t see any long threads criticizing the men. When a woman is pregnant it is a matter of life or death for HER and THAT has not changed. “You’ve come a long way baby” (slogan for women”s cigarette)
“If the girl decides to have the child even if the male counterpart requests an abortion they have to live with that females choice. The men are not stuck with the child but if they are put in the system (child support) it affects them greatly” All the way up to jail time and felonies.”
If the man even knows (which can’t happen to a woman she always knows
Not
July 14th, 2008 at 12:30 pm
Loren, What is your point? We know men are’nt dying because they can’t have children. Its dumb to even mention that or use it as an argument.
YOUR COMMENT WAS “Even when a teenage boy impregnates a girl, HE DOES NOT ALTER HIS LIFE AND HEALTH NOR RISK IT FOR THE DEED.”
Sorry to inform you his life is altered. Maybe not his health….but eventually it can take a toll. All I’m saying is that our YOUNG BOYS need to be as educated as the girls when it comes to these matters.
His life is altered once they put him in JAIL for non-payment of child support if he doesn’t have a job. His life is altered when he receives a FELONY, which results in him not being able to VOTE anymore. THOSE are pretty high risks to me. Especially when I live in a country where jobs are becoming very scarce. WE NEED TO TALK ABOUT THE BOYS AS WELL! They may not carry or birth the child…..but they play a significant part in the creation!
July 14th, 2008 at 1:00 pm
I’m not attacking teenagers and I don’t hate them, but I do believe that they are the most immature people on the planet, and they have every right to be – they aren’t grown up and they’re dealing with a lot of bleeping bleep.
16 year olds are still children. That alone means that they are not wise or mature. Sure they can be smart and beyond their years, but they aren’t ADULTS. And only adults should be raising children (responsible adults, that is). I hope she’s a good mom, and I don’t automatically think she’ll be a bad one. I think it’s sad that she has to miss her childhood and her young adulthood to raise a child. I fully support sex ed in school for this reason. I know kids have sex, I just wish she and all the other teenage PARENTS (that includes boys) would have practised safe sex so they wouldn’t have to deal with all of this. Yes I know children are a blessing, but there is a time and a point in your (semi) older years for children – when you are emotionally ready.
July 14th, 2008 at 3:58 pm
Anais, once again, not all teenagers are the same. Have you met every single teen on the planet? I’m guessing you haven’t, which means you have no idea whether or not they are all immature. True, some are extrememly immature, but some are very mature for thier age. Once again, you sound as if you’re bigoted against them. I know people who did wait until their older years to have kids, and they are horrible parents. They were now where close to being mature and responsible enough.
My sister got pregnant when she was seventeen, and she was completely mature enough to be a mother. She is a very good one at that.
I know that sixteen year olds are not adults, and some teens are immature. You need to know that not all of them are. I know quite a few adults, who by your standard should be completely wise and mature, who act like little kids, (8 year olds).
I’m not saying that teen pregnancy is a good thing, just that some teens are mature and some are not. Just like in every other age group.
July 14th, 2008 at 11:02 pm
Saritta, I completely agree with your second paragraph.
I disagree with your first one though. Just because you don’t know anyone who has gotten pregnant while on the pill, does not mean that it does not happen. Because it does, I know several people, who have gotten pregnant while on the pill, and yes they were using it correctly. I’m not saying that Jamie Lynn used any because I have no idea, and don’t think it’s any of our buisness.
I know a few guys who’ve gotten girls pregnant, and it hasn’t altered their lives at all. All the mothers of their children tried to sue for child support, and that didn’t work at all. One guy is supposed to be going through the court to pay it on his son, he paid a $100, and nothing else. The son is six years old, and the “father” has not had to go to jail once for it. In another case, a guy owed quite alot of child support, and he’s spent less than a month in jail for it, and never paid it off, or made a regular payment.
I’m not saying anyone’t right or wrong in this discussion, I just wanted to tell my experiences with this, as I’m close with both the mothers, and children in these cases.I
July 15th, 2008 at 2:16 am
avahan- First of all, Britney lost her kids because her bi-polar disorder wasn’t being managed and got out of control. Britney, unfourtnately, didn’t seem to want to admit she had a problem and certainly wasn’t doing anything to treat it (she may have also suffered from postpartum depression after the births of Sean and Jayden, which could have made the bi-polar disorder even worse).
Sadly, when you don’t treat a mental illness, it almost always spirals out of control. When that happens, it takes time to get it back under control again. Just because Britney is now on medication doesn’t mean that she is “stable” yet.
Also, from what I’ve read (on PEOPLE magazine’s website), the main reason Britney has not regained custody of her boys is because she is currently under a Conservatorship (her dad is her Conservator). When someone is put under a Conservatorship, it means they are not capable of making decisions on their own. Obviously a judge is not going to put children with a parent who has been judged to be unable to make her own decisions at this point in time.
Also, Sean and Jayden are NOT being raised by nannies. They are being raised by their father, Kevin Federline. He does have help…In the form of ONE nanny (again, I read this in PEOPLE magazine). His bodyguard also appears to help with the boys when they are out in public. However, that doesn’t mean the nanny and the bodyguard are raising them! I admit that, when the custody battle first started, I didn’t think too much of K-Fed. However, I have come to realize that, by all accounts, he seems to be a very loving, devoted father,
July 15th, 2008 at 5:37 am
I have only read a portion of what has been printed here, mostly out of curiousity.
Kids have sex, people make mistakes, it happens. What really irked me is someone saying that people don’t get pregnate on the pill unless they “want to” and that is bull. I got pregnate on the pill, I was married and in college… NOT a good time for me. Who ever said you cannot get pregnate on the pill is dead wrong. You know, they never use to put those little stickers on the pill packs saying that some antibiotics reduce the effectiveness of the pill. Now they do (too late for me), however… who knows what else affects them that we don’t yet know about. Science is not 100% and every womans body is different… thank you very much. On top of that, some women are extremely fertile! I was only off the pill for less than a month when both my other children were concieved and yes, they were planned. Pills are not 100%. A pill or two missed and you could be really be in trouble. I do agree that condoms are a good thing but at the same time we have had those break. A combo of the two would be the safest route. Then again, generally when something is “suppose” to be 99.9% people don’t tend to worry about it. Unless they are worried about STDs.
None of us stand in this girls shoes, none can offer nothing but opinion. I in NO WAY think a teen should have children, only because they miss out on so much of being a child. However, I have known some teen moms that have been better mothers than some middle aged moms and I am sure there are many that do.
My mother had me when she was 16 back in ‘72′. She was undereducated, broke and had a very hard life (and 4 other children but the time she was 23) but she did the best she could and I don’t think my life was all that bad. Thanks mom for being a horrible, foolish, unwed teen mom. You have given me a good life!
As far as talking to your kids (as someone asked about)… I have a 7 year old. Between Hanna Montana and Zoey she is an addict! I keep things real with her. We have not had the “sex” talk yet other than it takes a boy and a girl to have a baby. She knows how babies are born. We talk about things like this, yes at her age… often. When there are little 11 and 12 year old girls getting pregnate, prevention is at the top of my list with all my children (13,10 and 7). I am not big on “sex before marriage” simply because it is obsolete for the most part. I am big on prevention, open conversation and education when it comes to sex, relationships and pregnacy with my children. She is smart enough to understand that when you have a baby, that baby becomes number one. Period. We talk about the different things that mom and dad gives up willingly so they can have more than what we did when we were growing up. (Not that we were neglected by any means, but you always want more for your kids.) I keep things simple and clear for her. She is smart as a whip and she understands that people that live on TV are not the people they really are and that they have normal lives just like we do. Sure, they generally don’t have to worry about how they are going to pay their bills but they still have worries. I have explained to her that Jamies situation is not ideal and that having a baby is a HUGE responsibility. She sees the things I do day in and day out and knows that life it not all peaches and cream. However, it can still be good! She also realizes that even tho you have kids and give them a good life, there are still bad people in this world that do horrible things to children and when you have kids, you have to worry about things like that also. Children know and understand more than we give them credit for.
I guess I am done ranting now, thanks for listening. Kudos to Jamie for stepping up and trying to find some sort of normalicy in her situation.
July 15th, 2008 at 9:25 am
celebbabylover-
I don’t really care if it’s one nanny or 5. The point is that the boys aren’t being raised by their parents. They probably have no idea who exactly their parents are, or how a normal household runs with a mommy and daddy. Every time I see pictures of these boys they are with whoever, not K-Fed and not Britney. It’s just really sad to me. These young stars who have never been TAUGHT anything besides materialism by THEIR parents go out and get “married” and then just have these innocent kids because they think it’s cute. The kids suffer. Hopefully you’re right and K-Fed IS a devoted father because these 2 boys, who will be men some day, need every ounce of stability in their lives that they can get! I cringe when I think of how they’ll be in 20 years…and that’s sad. Small kids NEED their parents in these young formative years. And I don’t care how stable you try to make it with nannies, bodyguards, and money; they still need thier parents.
Anyway, all I was saying is that maybe Lynne Spears should have been spending more time as the “soccer mom” she thinks she was being instead of parading her girls around like objects to make more money. Britney and Jamie Lynn are paying for their parents mistakes. ANY young girl who is raised like that WOULD have a mental illness, would be unstable and spiral. I think everyone on here should consider Jamie Lynn and Britney’s upbringing by THEIR parents before getting on them about teenage pregnancies, not using birth control, etc, etc…
July 15th, 2008 at 8:08 pm
Avahahn, you are 100% right.
July 22nd, 2008 at 1:46 pm
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