I don’t see the problem with Megan disciplining Kassius. I think we should have more adults that feel the need to step in when they see a child misbehaving.

I’m a teacher but not a mother yet. May the powers that be make sure that I NEVER end up as the step mother to some of these commenting women’s kids. “Learn her place”. Where exactly is that?

I’m a huge fan of Megan Fox and her down-to-earth personality. She and Brian have been together for years and despite that they have called off the engagement, I think it’s only fair that Megan maintain her position in Kass’ life until replaced.

After all, she was functioning as a step-mom for years, and I would hope a step-mom would discipline her step-kids. And I think discipline often comes with bad connotations… I’m sure Megan means that she tries to offer the kid stability in a fome where he doesn’t seem to be offered it very much.

Try not to be harsh on non-traditional family structures…she might mean more to him than his real mommy, we don’t know.

Man oh man, it’s funny how you immediately know which quotes will start explosions.

I think what is key here is that Megan’s been in the picture for YEARS; she’s not a new Hollywood girl that Brian’s picked up a few months past and is now laying down rules for Kassius to follow – that would make this a completely different situation and more of your arguments justified, in my opinion. You can’t walk into a child’s life, especially as a parent’s new significant other, and immediately make demands.

But the fact she’s been around for years AND lives with Brian – might as well be married, in Kassius’ eyes – and is still trusted with caring for him on her own just shows that clearly both Vanessa and Brian think she’s doing a great job – and Kassius clearly loves her, too. THAT should be all that matters – their family is happy with the situation, who are you to throw out absolutes and criticise? ABSOLUTELY NOTs, and UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCEs, and IN NO WAY WHATSOEVERs; hello, nothing in life is that black and white.

i didn’t realize she’s only 22 (she looks like she’s in her early thirties to me so i was shocked to learn this) – so brian started seeing her when she was 18? not judging, just asking.

TraceyG and Stephany – you have the right to your opinion just like I do. Glad that I could make you laugh.
Sarah – The reason I brought it up is because Lauren had said something about babysitters, child care givers, teachers etc not being able to discipline other peoples children (because some think it’s not right for Megan to do so with Kash); when in fact they have to take classes to learn how to properly discipline a child (I worked at a daycare and had to take the classes – so yes I do know from personal experience that you do indeed have to take a class – along with CPR and First Aid)…. and I was commenting on the subject that just because a parent chooses to be with someone doesn’t mean they have a right to be that child’s disciplinarian (or as the article quotes Megan as saying – which it could have been taken out of content – that she makes up the rules and enforces them instead of Brian doing so). On the news last week it was talking about how likely it was for a child to be hurt by someone that was watching them and it said that 70 something percent (I don’t remember the exact number and I’m not going to lie and say that I do or just make up a number) was more likely to be hurt (physically, mentally etc…) by their parents partner … aka boyfriend/girlfriend or even new husband/wife ….. then in the hands of a professional. I might have worded it incorrectly but that’s all I was trying to say. I will try to find the link for you all so you’ll know that I’m not just “uneducated” and don’t know what in the heck I’m talking about, when I actually do know something about the topic. I don’t claim to know everything because I know that I don’t.
Just for the record I don’t know Megan, Brian, Kassius nor Vanessa so in no way shape or form would I indicate that Megan abuses Kassius or ever would and if anyone misinterpreted what I was trying to get across as a accusation then I am in the wrong and need to apologize to everyone on this site and most importantly Megan, I truly with the bottom of my heart apologize, This was not my intention. I would never accuse her of child abuse nor could I for the simple fact I don’t personally know them and have not witnessed such an act.
But on the same hand I still stick with my original statement that Megan does not have the right to “to lay out the rules and make sure that the rules are followed constantly” this is Brian AND Vanessa’s job. They should be the ones making up the rules for their child and making sure he follows them, not Megan. Now if she’s in charge of him (aka when she is in fact alone with him) then she should make sure that he follows his parents rules, instead of him following the rules she wants him to have.

Bancie – and look at the headline -
“Megan Fox Takes Role in Kash’s Life Seriously”
Vanessa should feel lucky to have a woman in Brians life for a lot of years that feels that way about a son that isn’t biologically hers. That’s a lot to take on – to love and discipline another’s child…I say Kass is lucky to have her. She obviously loves him by the comments she makes.

“Lastly, just because a nanny or a school teacher can dish out discipline does not mean it is okay for Megan to do so. First, for those hours when a child is in school, the school stands in the shoes of the parents therefore a teacher can discipline a student. Secondly, if I put my child in day care or a hire a nanny, I would expect that they could, with my authority and consent, discipline my child.”

LAUREN – you are 200% correct.
WHY would it be ok for this years school teacher (where Kass would spend several hours a day) to have more authority in dicipline over someone that has been involved in Kass’s life since he was TWO? Makes NO sense. Major mother figure in his life who has taken care of him for years on end vs. school teacher for 1 year. hmmm. That’s a no brainer. A kid needs a mother and a father in his life at home. When he’s at their house he should follow their rules, both the mother and the fathers rules. I’m sure that she’s not doing anything that Brian or Vanessa would disagree with.

Bancie1031- how many parents kill their children? I’d bet a months pay that lady in Florida killed her daughter or knew about it. What about the woman who put her kids in the lake and said she was car jacked?

This isn’t a “girlfriend” that he picked up the bar one night and now she’s discipling his child.

It must be nice to be as judgemental as some of you are. Please be careful not to fall off your high horses.

“Lastly, just because a nanny or a school teacher can dish out discipline does not mean it is okay for Megan to do so. First, for those hours when a child is in school, the school stands in the shoes of the parents therefore a teacher can discipline a student. Secondly, if I put my child in day care or a hire a nanny, I would expect that they could, with my authority and consent, discipline my child.”

And what exactly are Brian and Vanessa doing by allowing Megan to spend one-on-one time with Kassius in her care? Is she supposed to stand there like an invalid while he runs wild because it is not her “place” to tell him otherwise? As for your second point, the fact that Megan does spend alone time with Kassius suggests that his parents trust her with him. That includes using sound judgment with regard to giving him the best care possible. Which includes setting specific rules to follow. Again, the very fact that people are complaining about a significant other who has been in her partner’s child’s life since the child was a toddler setting rules for the child to follow is a resounding reflection on child-rearing practices today.

I’m all for opposing opinions, but there are so many glaring holes in the argument that she has no right to discipline him that logically make zero sense.