I think all the argument about motivation for adoption is a by-product of a lingering stigma in society that needs to change. People shouldn’t have to feel the need to justify their decision to adopt. Parents of biological children aren’t scrutinized by the world and expected to provide reasons for why they wanted their children.

I often notice people complaining about the children of celebrities being referred to as ‘adopted’. I say, why not? ‘Adopted’ shouldn’t be a dirty word, but a word used with great pride. Adoption is not a second best option and DNA is not the only way to form a family.

That’s a beautiful way of looking at it! Makes me like Meg that much more!

I have two beautiful biological children, and have considered adoption (although I’ll probably adopt stateside, as there are so many here who need a family) and have always heard people say things like ‘rescued’ when referring to an adopted child. I’m sorry, but when I do adopt, if someone says that to me, my response will be…”I RESCUED my dog, I CHOSE my child”.

Not all celebs who have adopted has said they have reduced their child…..MR is not the first to say it.

I don’t think anyone here said adoption is never a ‘rescue’ as a side effect. But if you read the stories here from women who HAVE adopted: you don’t adopt a child to rescue the child. You adopt because you love children and would like to have them in your life.

Rescue can come in many forms, like donating money to organisations working with abandoned children in those countries. You don’t have to adopt to rescue children.

Linda-

Zahara’s pediatrician said she definitely would have died.

Linda- I think Ingrid brought up Zahara because she was trying to point out that sometimes adoption IS a “rescue” and she (Ingrid, I mean, not Angie) wants to make it clear that there is nothing wrong with that.

Also, I disagree that “nobody knows how Zahara would have ended up had she not been adopted”. As Ingrid pointed out, she was malnourished. She also had an E Coli infection and was also, I believe, at least slightly dehydrated.

Angie also said that, when she went to pick Z up, she saw two other babies in that orphanage with the same symptoms Z had…and both of them died within days.

Therefore, it’s prety obvious how Z would have ended up if she weren’t adopted. More than likely, she would have died in the orphanage.

All of that said, I also consider Pax’s adoption to be a “resuce”. True, he wasn’t near death when Angie adopted him, but the sad fact is that most people who want to adopt want to adopt babies or toddlers, not older children like Pax.

Had Angie not adopted him, Pax very likely would have faced a childhood in the orphanage, and a life completely on his own (and likely on the streets, as it’s doubtful he’d have had much, if any, money) when he turned 16 or so (from what I’ve heard, most children in forgein countries “age out” of orphanages at the age of 16).

I don’t know what the situation was like for Maddox, but Zahara and Pax are both very fortunate that Angie (and later Brad) cared enough to adopt them!

I never tire of seeing pictures of these two together.

I have major issues with saying that adoptive parents “rescue” their children because what does that say to the child? “If your Mom and Dad hadn’t gotten you…” No child should be made to feel like they should be grateful for being adopted. They’ve suffered enough loss already.

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Please see the link >

http://about-orphans.blogspot.com

Many thanks.