ITA with Sadie

I hardly think working for 3 months with the aid of nannies/daycare/housekeepers then having the rest of the year off is quite the same thing as what real working everyday moms do..

Halle sounds so sweet Out of all the moms fetured she seems the most down to earth.
Nicole has always rubbed the wrong way; I’ve always gotten the impression that her new baby is a higher priority than Isabella and Connor. I hope I’m wrong, though I do feel bad for her as it seems she’s lost her children somewhat to Tom and his Scientology.

It bothers me when people say “the Fathers babysat”

Fathers do not babysit their children, they parent them.

Although in this article it says that Keith Urban split babysitting duties with Bella…the wording still really irks me.

wow, this website is clearly in cahoots with the patriarchal establishment – you never post my comments critiquing the super mom image – one that is very problematic for women – why is this? Why can’t this site accept criticism? Apparently you only care about moms as long as they aren’t complaining about the many roles they are expected to fill perfectly all at once.

It’s crazy to assume Nicole doesn’t spend time with her older kids just because we don’t see photographic evidence of it. Nicole is notoriously more private than Tom when it comes to being photographed with or talking about her kids. Nobody knows how often she sees Bella or Connor or what their agreement is, so how can we judge?
On another matter, I always find myself rolling my eyes when I read about these celeb working mothers talking about the difficulties of “juggling” their kids and work. Of course everyone, rich or poor, has their problems, but please! Celebs have the luxury of choice in the matter of going back to work, they can afford nannies, chefs, housekeepers etc etc AND usually have more than accommodating employers. If I was a celeb, I wouldn’t even dream of comparing myself to “everyday” women out there who juggle work and motherhood.

Everything Nicole says people always find a way to attack her. And I find it interesting how Nicole flies to L.A. and somehow Cruise makes a first flight to bring their kids to New York.People act like they know what goes on in her personal life. Someone sees a couple of photos with the kids with Tom and automatically people insist that Nicole could care less about her older children. It’s sick.

I would like to say that I respect Nicole’s decision to live in Nashville and build a home there but that decision does not square with the above mentioned quote from her.
In response to another post, I would rather live “unhappily” in LA with my children than somewhere else because that is what parents do; they put their own needs and happiness below that of their children.

Yes, Nicole children are teenagers but that does not mean that they do not need her. In fact, since Bella and Connor will be going off to college in a few years, I would think that Nicole would want to treasure these few remaining years of adolescents.

I’m all in favor of women pursuing their careers but your children are only young once and sometimes parenthood requires sacrifices.

I can’t say I feel for celebrity working moms. Sure, they probably have long days when they are filming, but since the large majority have nurseries/daycare/nanny on-site within walking distance of their work. Movies and TV are not 9-5 jobs, 365 days a year. It’s more like work a few weeks or months, then time off. Most working mothers don’t have that flexibility and their children don’t go to work with them. I don’t really think it’s a true working-mom situation in which you are separated from your children for 8-10 hours at a time.

Carie, I totally have the same opinion. There’s just something about J.Lo that has always rubbed me the wrong way. I have no idea what it is but that’s just the way I feel. (And how many interviews does she have to do where she reinforces how dedicated she is to her kids???)

Anyway, that’s just my opinion! I love HB.

Another story from this site that completely plays into the uncritical ideology that women should figure out a way to do it all – why can you never post a story about how unfair it is that women are expected to find ways to do it all, how men never seem to speak to this issue, nor are they called to task when they place career before work, and finally how the real problem is with the way work is structured in our society – to benefit men at the expense of women? If you really care about moms, you would start up an honest discussion on some of these issues instead of everyday running another story about ways to do it all, making mothers who struggle feel inferior! And these celebrities are kidding themselves if they think that they deal with similar work/family conflict as the rest of us.

I agree with Carie on this one. I hate to be negative but Jennifer Lopez seems to be trying to overcompensate, which I think is sad that she feels like she has to do that. I love Halle though she seems to be so down to earth about motherhood and I am a fan of her work too.