Comments on: Cate Blanchett Says All Three Sons Have Been Surprises

By: liv

liv — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 00:54:10 +0000

I like how she said they were suprises. Me an both my other siblings were all suprises.She could have been using a type of birth controll and it failed or she could have just not been trying as hard to prevent it.

By: JM

JM — Thu, 25 Dec 2008 02:12:09 +0000

Melanie – So sorry to hear about the situation. I couldn’t imagine what it’s like for you to no longer have a close bond with your sister and vis versa. The same kind of situaiton happend to my SIL. When my SIL became pregnant with twins all of a sudden this “friend” of hers no longer called her and pretty much began to have nothing to do with her. My SIL found out from a coworker that she told them she couldn’t stand to listen to her go on about the babies it became to painful. I don’t think the way this “friend” handled the situation was right but my SIL just didn’t have time to deal with it. Turns out a few years later she just had a baby herself and all of a sudden the two are talking again! I really don’t know what kind of mind frame these woman go through but I bet it truly is hard to have close people around you filled with all this joy and happiness and you find it so difficult to get it yourself. My suggestion would be to reach out to your sister. She’s either going to accept it or she’s going to move on (and so will you). But being two adults it should be something that can be worked through. I am sure your sister is going to need you more then ever now that she’s pregnant (but most likely won’t admit it). But try to see it from her point of view and maybe reconcile the situation. She was going through something painful and it probably wasn’t you or your child she was resenting it was herself for not being able to make this work for herself. Life’s just way too short to let the small pety stuff get in the way.

Good luck!

By: Jody

Jody — Wed, 24 Dec 2008 23:50:45 +0000

I think it’s great that Cate and her husband have welcomed their little surprises with open, loving arms.

As for the term “surprise” meaning with or without birth control, with or without actively trying, whatever. Only the two of them know what actually happened, and I personally don’t want to hear that much detail about any celebrity’s sex life. I was conceived while my parents were using a diaphragm and spermacide. I have a couple friend who conceived their second child while using nuvaring and condoms – the baby boy is now 5 months old. I have another couple friend who actively tried for a baby for a year and a half with no success, and conceived their 2 year old son naturally just as they were about to start fertility treatments. Birth control isn’t infallible, and unprotected sex does not automatically equal babies. And really, aren’t all babies surprises?

By: jaja

jaja — Wed, 24 Dec 2008 21:32:40 +0000

Where does it say that they weren’t using birth control?

By: Britt

Britt — Wed, 24 Dec 2008 17:46:34 +0000

Anyways, who cares if they were a surprise or planned if they are happy with their children then way to be!

By: Britt

Britt — Wed, 24 Dec 2008 17:45:10 +0000

Wow Melanie thats horrible!!!!!

By: melania

melania — Wed, 24 Dec 2008 16:37:45 +0000

My husband and I have 3 surprises and 1 baby we planned for. The truth is that some women and men are more fertile than others and even if you use birth control, one time of not using it can easily result in a baby. We have been down that road. Now that we’ve had our 4th, my husband is having a procedure done. That’s all there is to it.
I know there are so many tensions when it comes to having children. It doesn’t always happen easily. When we found out last year that we were expecting our 4th, there was so much anger from my sister in law who had been trying to have a baby for 6 years. She kept saying things like- it’s not fair, you don’t even want it- and other even uglier things. We were so close, but now our family has been torn apart over the infertity which has consumed her. She didn’t come to the hospital when the baby came or call us. She is the godmother to all the other children, but said she won’t be for our new baby because it’s too hard. The irony of the situation is that she just found out that she is pregnant a few weeks ago. At a time when we should all be rejoicing, our family is really broken over this.

By: JM

JM — Wed, 24 Dec 2008 16:37:07 +0000

I always love when people say, “oh he/she was a surprise!”

It’s common sense that not using any kind of protection can and most likely will eventually get you knocked up!! lol

However if your on birth control (or told you couldn’t have a baby) and you end up pregnant well then I guess you can get away with the “it was a surprise!” type of comment.

By: Alice

Alice — Wed, 24 Dec 2008 16:28:23 +0000

I think it’s kinda sad that nowadays in people’s minds you’re either trying to or trying not to. She probably just didn’t actively plan to have them and they happened, that’s all. OK, it’s not a surprise like “I tought it couldn’t happen at all” but it’s still a surprise. I don’t think anyone expects to conceive each and every time they have sex.

By: Jeanne

Jeanne — Wed, 24 Dec 2008 15:53:11 +0000

Surprise was probably not the best word to use, but it’s pretty clear to me that she just meant that they never actively tried to get pregnant and that the boys were unplanned but not unwanted. They’re just very lucky in that they have no fertility issues and they want kids and have the means to support them.